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So I have only had sex once since I've gotten HSV. It was quick & was not aggressive or rough but two days later I had an OB. My OBs consists of extreme vulva burning so for right now I'm remaining single and unfortunately completely avoiding sex. This might be TMI but I've recently tried to use a vibrates which also caused an OB with vulva burning :(. Will sex always be a trigger for me? I'm seven months in and am already on daily Valtrex. Will my body calm down over time or should I try to focus on myself and forget about sex until better treatment is available? I'm just getting really warn down! For those of you who don't know I was a virgin when I got HSV, that would mean I've had a total of sex two times in my life! I enjoyed sex a great deal and want to enjoy it but how can I when I causes such physical pain? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.   

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So I have only had sex once since I've gotten HSV. It was quick & was not aggressive or rough but two days later I had an OB. My OBs consists of extreme vulva burning so for right now I'm remaining single and unfortunately completely avoiding sex. This might be TMI but I've recently tried to use a vibrates which also caused an OB with vulva burning :(. Will sex always be a trigger for me? I'm seven months in and am already on daily Valtrex. Will my body calm down over time or should I try to focus on myself and forget about sex until better treatment is available? I'm just getting really warn down! For those of you who don't know I was a virgin when I got HSV, that would mean I've had a total of sex two times in my life! I enjoyed sex a great deal and want to enjoy it but how can I when I causes such physical pain? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.   

It's tough to say how much of an issue this will be for you going forward. The fact that you're getting OBs after sex is not unusual. There's no doubt that friction in the infected area tends to increase the chances of an OB. But that certainly doesn't mean that every time you have sex (or whatever :) ),  that you'll have an OB. It's early for you right now so as your body adapts, it's quite possible that sex will not be as much of a trigger.

A couple of additional points;  Use a lubricant to reduce the friction. The other point is try not to worry about having an OB after you have sex. I think you may be getting into a frame of mind where you're thinking about it happening and that creates a bit of anxiety, which in turn can trigger an OB. If you get an OB a day or two after sex, so be it. It will come and go. Your situation is common.

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Thank you that helps a lot! I just wish the OB pain wasn't so intense. I've gone on Amitriptlyn for Vulvodynia pain so hopefully that will help. Thanks for the tips though!   

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