new to this with alot of questions

[new2ya]

 In july of last year i reconnected with my childhood best female friend , i was in love with her when i was in my teens and im now in my 40s. I thought it was a dream come true. About a month after our first sexual encounter she had some vaginal issues , she said it hurt to even sat down.  It was chocked up to a latex allergy due to she had never used latex condoms before. We  switched to non latex and went about our lives ( occasionally condom free ).

In December of last year i noticed a sore spot on my testicles which i thought was a pimple. It got worse but cleared up in a week or so. Then i got the same thing in the same spot a few weeks later. I went to the doctor and tested positive for hsv1 and hsv 2. Ive never had a single symptom prior and had been with the same women for about 8 months. Prior to meeting her i had what i thought was a complete blood work up but i was unaware they don't normally test for hsv ( why the hell not ). I festered over being infected and when i finally did say something to my partner i did so in a drunken stupor over the phone and i pretty ,much destroyed things. I suspected she gave the virus to me for a few reasons, she only drinks fiji water, she is big into herbal oils, her "latex issue" ( possibly an OB ) , she only uses tea tree oil for showering, her insistence on condoms, she stated  semen throws her ph out of balance, olive oil in every meal, and lysine vitamins on her kitchen counter. I hit a serious bout with depression after diagnosis , i think i literally lost my mind and came close to suicide, i lost the love of my life and destroyed any possibilities of anymore in my life.

 After researching hsv i see all of these things popping up quite a bit when it comes to herbal hsv remedies.  What are the odds i got it from her? My levels on hsv 2 where around 50 something , does that mean active infection or might it mean recent infection?

 I ve been doing some reading on herbal remedies , and ive read about oil of oregano, usnea, colloidal siver, and self heal.  Ten days ago i started the whole oregeno oil on the spine with coconut oil on the spine , along with oregano oil / olive oil mix under the tongue. I tried the oregano oil on my testicles once and the pain was unbearable even without an outbreak. Im also doing lysine 1000mg 3 times a day with a vitamin d supplement. Ive also been taking usnea extract orally under the tongue. Ive got selfheal and colloidal silver on order as well Ill try whatever.   Since my first outbreak in December ive now had 3 outbreaks but since taking the herbal treatment i had a really messed up day. This mourning i woke up with pain in my testicles and very dry skin on them. Before noon today my testicles where covered in an almost rock hard callused skin. It began to peel like a sunburn shortly there after , the color was dark as could be and i applied antibiotics.  Ive googled the hell out of those symptoms and nothing seems to match up.  Ive read the words " viral shedding " so many times but i really dont picture it being like a snake shedding its skin. I literally pulled a 1 inch long by 1/2 inch long piece of skin earlier tonight.  ( others are coming off in smaller chunks ). Anyone else experience anything like this?

 

 

[WilsoInAus]

I don't think you will ever realistically know unless she shows you a negative test.

I think you might be retrofitting some explanations here. Her actions are not exactly completely 'normal' but can be generated by obsessive disposition.

All you can conclude is that you have an established infection. Does it predate this partner? You will need to accept the possibility that this is so.

What you describe does not exactly sound like a herpes lesion. Herpes does not cause testicular pain.

[new2ya]

 I can accept it might pre date my partner however it seems unlikely to me. Im in my 40s i drink like a fish ( have for years ) and smoke non stop. Ive been divorced twice sued a few times ( for literally millions ), i eat like crap , and my job is non stop stress. If i haven't met the criteria to wake this thing up before then im surprised. I actually got my first outbreak when i was happier then ever before ( no stress ), eating healthy ( first time in years ) , not drinking much and i was down to two cigs a day, enjoying the love of my life i always wanted.  That is the exact opposite of what ive read that triggers this thing to wake up . We had unprotected sex in October/November and my first outbreak was in December ..... it does lead me to thinking especially with her quirks.

 Not to be to graphic but to be better descriptive , when i said i woke up with pain in my testicles i actually should have said pain in the base of my penis right where it meets the testicles.  Exactly where ive had the three outbreaks , but this one is odd as hell. By noon yesterday i literally had what seemed like a hardened shell/ scab covering the underside of my penis down to most of my left testicle. ( cacoon for lack of a better term ) It seemed  localized around where i had my outbreaks, painful as hell i might add. I applied some antibiotic ointment and just tried to move slow for the rest of the day until i got home. When i got home was when i noticed the area peeling like a sun burn , i even noticed what looked like dried blood on the underside of my penis. ( no visual signs of a cut or wound ). By now most of the skin has peeled off and is just tender like a sun burn might be. 

 Today after lunch i got a hell of a back ache all the way down my legs. Its been going on for hours now. I read some get them prior to an outbreak , but are they minor or painful as hell aches?  Its funny but not funny , every ache or my eye being itchy leads back to ........is it the herpes? 

 Is it even possible i started treating this virus early enough and some of this herbal stuff is actually trying to flush this thing out?  I know that man has never cured a virus and ive read the scientific data on how the virus works.  Im also aware the immune system can kill the virus once it leaves the cell it hides within. I read a study about one drug company that was working on a way to make the virus leave the infected cells. To basically induce a break out from hell and let the body kill it naturally. Ill have to look for that study tonight but it was an actual reputable medical study.

 It is actually quite intriguing that something so small sends out a few soldiers but makes sure to keep some hidden within cell walls that our antibodies cant get to as a backup. But even if a human beat the virus and actually was cured , wouldn't they always test positive given current testing methods?  If ive read correctly even the western blot test  checks for antibodies which once infected with any virus your always going to have.