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About a month ago I was forced into sex with a guy, and he didn't wear a condom. I freaked out after and took plan b. About two weeks later my whole lower area was hurting.. like the skin. It hurt to even sit down. My lymph nose in my groin was swollen and hurt. Then I developed a blister. I went to the ER and the doctor was EXTREMELY condescending and told me that it didn't look anything like herpes and it was diaper rash. WHAT?! So then the following day, the blister turned into multiple little open sores. So I went to my gynecologist appointment and he said right away that it sounded like herpes. He did a swab (OWW) and a culture internally, but started me on an antiviral bc he's certain it's herpes. I feel like the outbreak is moving along quickly and it isn't terribly severe. It's only been a week and the blisters are already opened. I should get the results early next week, but we're treating it as though they're positive. I used teatree oil after my shower.. I read it's helpful in speeding up the healing of an outbreak. Right now the sores are alternating between sore and itchy, my lymph nodes are still tender and swollen, I've been pretty tired, and my stomach is KILLING me. I'm not sure if it's something I ate, the stress of it all, or the herpes. 


Emotionally.. I'm feeling all the standard things I've read on here. Shame, dissappointment, anger, hopelessness, disgust... I've cried quite a bit, but I'm trying my best to keep a positive attitude... there's not much else I can do! I've also been doing a ton of reading and research on natural remedies so that I don't have to use the antivirals daily as a suppressant. 

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Hi and welcome to HC.  Sounds like a crappy situation to be in!

First, when you say you were forced into sex, do you mean that you did not consent and someone forced themselves upon you?  If so, this is a separate issue that you may want to consider going to the police about.

You've done all the right things.  Going to the doctor, getting swaps done and getting started on antivirals - not to mention all the reading you are doing.  Get yourself educated because it does make a difference in how effective you fight HSV.  There is lots of info here on almost every avenue of HSV.  For a topical application to help reduce OB naturally, you can try lemon balm as research suggests it is effective.  It's also good as a tea and helps calm nerves - so lots of uses.  Tea tree oil, if undiluted and applied liberally, may end up drying your skin out and making your more uncomfortable.

Being tired and GI problems are not uncommon with HSV.  In time this should pass as your body gets better at fighting the virus.  Also note that a side effect of antivirals is GI issues, so when you stop taking them that may help.  Since your infection is new, you have to give yourself some time to figure out how your body reacts to it (everyone is different).  Some take antivirals as suppressible therapy while others only take them when experiencing an outbreak.

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Hello and welcome to this site. Sounds like you have done your own reading to understand that what you are going through is normal it could be the medication that is upsetting your stomach but also most likely some anxiety.  The reality is you could have got herpes even if you used comdoms and what happendd,  if that was fodced upon you then that is assalt and you should be taking some action against this person but of course that is completely up to you.

Just understand that the process takes time but also you need to learn to accept it but most importantly when you get your results find out whether it is type 1 or type 2 because that is important.  . And once you get through the initial shock and you're at break is over pretty much your life will go on as normal and it is only your thinking that was stop you from moving forward

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    • CHT
      Hi "firstimeuser".... let's see what "WilsoinAus" thinks but, for what's it worth, I don't see anything in your picture (or description) that looks like herpes..... it actually looks more like a scrape or follicle issue.... maybe even a bug bite.  Also, by the way, the odds of having HSV2 with an outbreak on your testicles is very low.... that is not a typical spot for an HSV2 outbreak.    Have your doctor take a look and if you want some peace of mind, get an IgG antibody test for HSV2 in about 12 weeks (takes that long for antibodies to develop).... but, again, I don't think you have anything to worry about here.... just not seeing anything herpes-related here.    take care....best of luck.
    • CHT
      Hi Marlena..... since you stated you've had "herpes on the lips" then you likely have oral HSV1, which the majority of adults worldwide have... the fact your results for HSV1/2 are positive (at least I believe that's what your results show - I don't speak Polish but, I think I'm seeing your results are positive based on the attachment you included) may simply be reading the fact that you have HSV1.... the question is whether you've contracted HSV2 in your genital area. Your description of symptoms could possibly be related to HSV but, it's difficult to verify with certainty based on your description. You may also have contracted a different type of sexually transmitted infection (STI) or a simple fungal infection.   Your doctor does not believe what he/she is seeing is HSV but, unless your doctor has experience with HSV, they could easily misdiagnose your condition.  You need full STI testing. Do you have the option to travel to a larger city in Poland where you could get an appointment to be seen by a doctor with more experience with STIs?  You really need to have an experienced doctor take a look and run tests to check specifically for HSV2 as well as other STIs.  If they can rule out HSV2 or other STIs then hopefully they can then determine what is causing the redness, itching, and swollen condition.... again, it may not be HSV2 but, you need proper testing to verify.  Have you talked to your boyfriend about all this?  Has he had any symptoms on his genitals that are suspect?  Has he taken any tests to check for STIs?   I hope you can get more definitive testing so you know what you are dealing with and how best to treat it.  If you have any other questions/concerns, please come back and let us know.... I hope this helps a little.... best of luck.... take care.
    • CHT
      Hey Jeremy.... I know only too well that emotional pain you are feeling.... I really do.... and many of us on this site also know that pain.  It's not so much the physical side of having HSV that hurts, it's the stigma and risk of rejection that stings like hell!  You have to do what you think is right as it relates to when you disclose your HSV status when getting to know someone romantically.... I just think it's best to do it relatively early, and certainly before any sexual activity.   Have you looked into dating sites that cater to those with HSV?  I know others have had some luck with meeting partners on these sites.... you don't have to worry about the "disclosure" talk nor would you obviously have to worry about passing along a virus the other person already has.... take a few minutes and search around and see if it's an option you like. By the way, by taking your daily antiviral med and using a condom, your risk of passing along the virus is down around 1.9%.... pretty good odds that if you stick to your regimen you are very unlikely to transmit the virus....keep that in mind when you meet your next girlfriend and need to have "the talk."  That statistic might help calm any concerns about contracting the virus from you. I hope you don't give up.... as tough as it can be to find the right partner, it's still worth trying.... try to stay optimistic and look into some alternate options and see what happens.... all the best.... take care.
    • FirstTimeUser
      @WilsoInAuswould appreciate your thoughts as have seen you comment quite a bit before!
    • Marlena
      Good morning. My name is Marlena and I come from Poland. Sorry, my English is average. For two years I have been in a relationship with a man, for a year and a half I have been struggling with intimate problems. On average, my intimate condition is getting worse every month. Then I feel itching, redness, swelling around the entrance to the vagina, small blisters (not always). Most often it is only red and swollen, itches and then disappears. This state lasts 3-4 days. I come from a small town, doctors don't know what it is. They say it's 'skin irritation'. They prescribe moisturizing creams with lactic acid, probiotics. It doesn't help. I did a blood test for HSV on my own, which is very expensive in Poland, but it does not separate HSV1 from HSV2. The doctor, when he shows these results, says that it's not herpes, but irritation. I would like to add that in the past I suffered from herpes on the lips, then it was a 'scab'. There has never been a scab in an intimate area. Sometimes there are blisters that last 1-2 days, but not always. So what do high blood test results mean? I would like to add that in Poland people do not talk about the HSV virus. It's just that sometimes someone has it on their lips and that's it. Results translation: IgM HSV 1/2: questionable IgG HSV 1/2: result above the measuring range https://files.fm/f/4cpu7uee4  
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