New, still pretty down about it, super excited this exists.

[Tiedyehippie]

Holy moly these last few months have been a roller coaster. I'm gonna just let it all out because why the heck not! I met this guy, he was.. perfect. Funny, smart, gorgeous eyes, steady job, sweet as could be the whole package. We started seeing each other and man did I fall quick, he wanted to see me all the time and became one of my best friends. He took me camping for my birthday and we finally had a little fun, few days later I start feeling funky. I choose to ignore it, thinking its got to be just a uti or a yeast infection (I get them all the time!) And then the dreaded day comes where I find a sore..

What is going on!? Can you get sores from a UTI?! WHY WOULDN'T HE TELL ME!? Well I'm an emotional wreck, I have to talk to him. I go to see him and he tells me he's feeling really sick and going to the er. Well I can't lay that on him right now, I'll wait till after the doctor. Well I get the dreaded call that next morning, the doctor tells him they think it's herpes. I'm frozen in fear, I knew subconsciously that's what it was I even called the last person I sleept with before him bawling asking if they had anything. I go to the er and low and behold the doctor thinks it's herpes. I'm treated, tested and sent on my merry way.

So that brings me to now. I'm newly diagnosed (February 14th, yea guess what I got for Valentine's Day?) still heart broken and in need of some guidance. I'm only 22 and I feel like my life is over, as much as I try and cope nothing is helping or working. The guy previously stated just thinks this would be the foundation of why we got together and doesn't want to be with me because of this, I'm truly devastated. I feel betrayed by the very person who did this to me. So long story short (after I wrote a novel) I need some advice. How do you all cope? I'm scared I'll never be able to feel okay again. 

Thank you for taking the time to read this. Feels good to finally get it off my chest. Peace and love my friends.

Edited March 24, 2017 by Tiedyehippie
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[honey_6974]

Some people have constant symptoms and nerve pain, but those are less common cases. I have more typical symptoms. I was devastated when I found out, but in retrospect it hasn't had such a negative effect on my life, even as a so called ‘womaniser’.

My life is still mostly happy and fun, and a lot of the time I forget I have HSV at all.

For the times I do remember, I'm comforted knowing that it's not forever. The scientific research going into this is promising. Read this post, and listen to the long-form presentation by Prof. Halford.

https://liveherpesvaccine.com/2016/10/13/theravaxhsv-2-vaccine-trial-initial-findings/

[DownToEarth]

I'm just recently diagnosed, too. Trying to educate myself as much as possible. Question to honey_6974: how will a vaccine help if we already have the virus? I thought a vaccine was supposed to prevent from getting something?

 

[VVK]

Hey DownToEarth. Welcome to the community. Just FYI you can send Private Messages to members (just put your cursor over their username or avatar on the left of their posts and then select 'message' from the popup that appears). This is more likely to get you a direct response from that member than just replying in a topic like this.

Vaccines are helpful not only for prevention but also for treatment. A vaccine can really be anything introduced into the body that creates an active acquired immunity to a particular disease-causing agent (in this context, HSV). Since people who have HSV can still get recurrent outbreaks, a vaccine can be made that helps the immune system work better to decrease or eliminate those recurrent outbreaks. This is often referred to as a therapeutic vaccine as opposed to a preventative or prophylactic vaccine, which would prevent an HSV- or uninfected individual from contracting HSV.