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I've been dating a guy for about three weeks. I really like him. We've gone on three dates, & we talk almost every day.

The last time we were together, things got physical & we made out. So now I'm wondering when I should tell him I have HSV-2.

The last guy I told threw it back in my face & said I was "lucky" he was even having sex with me. I don't want that experience again. How soon is too soon to tell this new guy? I know I definitely want to be honest and upfront and tell him before clothes come off. I need advice!

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Yeah.  Don't take clothes off then disclose.  I think it is a personal choice.  He decides to get emotionally attached, not you.  

If it were me, I would do it whenever I felt the right time was.  Not in public.  Not near sexy time.  Maybe you invite him for lunch at your place or something.  I think the most important thing is telling him how you will protect him.  

For some, it is too much.  Some folks on here judge people for lack of the acceptance of the risks(however minimal they may be)

I would expect him to accept the risks.  But some like me may not.

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i like to disclose early. I have told 4 guys and only had one reject me, but even he was quite nice about it. One I haven't slept with, but we are going on a date on the weekend. It just depends when it feels right for you. I choose to do it quite early because i don't want to get attached then rejected. Everyone is different. I definitely think the way you tell some one makes a massive difference. 

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