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So I was diagnosed with GHSV last year. My doctor did not test for HSV1 or HSV2, but I am certain it is HSV1 due to a previous partner being tested and diagnosed with that. 

Anyways, a couple days ago I was hanging with a friend and one thing lead to another, and we ended up having sex. We used a condom at first, but it came off and we continued without it. It never occurred to me to tell him about the herpes. Alcohol was involved, but I wasn't drunk. He was pretty intoxicated though. 

I felt guilty the next day, and ended up telling him about the herpes. He got super pissed, and was saying how I better hope he didn't get it, because people sue for things like that. I rarely have had outbreaks, but I did have one that had cleared up a few days before this happened, but there were no signs of it at the time. 

I just need some other advice and input on how likely it is be received it, and how likely it would be for him to sue me over it if he did. I have been having constant anxiety attacks and panicking every since I told him. 

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Well the biggest question is, did he not have herpes before and didn't know it. I've yet to meet a person who was tested to for herpes during their STD tests. So he'd have to prove with a herpes test that he didn't have it before.

As for the chances, they're likely slim, though not impossible. 

Hopefully your next sexcapade is less eventful then this one :)

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I'm not sure if he has been tested or not, I didn't ask and he is currently not speaking to me. And sexcapades don't happen often for me, I usually get anxiety over it lol

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Did you have a positive swab at the time of your diagnosis? Have you had any outbreaks since your first?

Overall the odds are extremely low an infection occurred for him. Quite possibly zero if you both have HSV-1, which is a pretty likely scenario.

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