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Self diagnosed myself Thursday with genital herpes.. I just got out of a 10 year relationship about 2 years ago. I decided to start dating, so I went to the doctor to look at birth control options. I got my yearly physical, everything went good! After talking to A friend, I was told that during your physical they don't test for all stds? I thought that was odd.. But I decided to research other stds, where I came across genital herpes. I was immediately shocked! The image in my head, from the stories I've heard about what herpes looked like, vs what they looked like in reality were very different! I knew right away I have this!! I thought back to the time I went to the doctor 9 years ago pregnant and my doctor says I just had sensitive skin and to stop shaving. I've always assumed since then that I just have very sensitive skin and never mentioned it to any other doctors, I didn't see the need to. I only got it maybe 2 or 3 times a year anyway! And it went away after a few days. Or 4 years ago when I went to she a specialist because it would burn so bad every time I peed! And he couldn't find anything wrong with me! Why was I never tested! But once I seen the pictures of what it looks like and reading people's storys, I know that's what this is! I can't believe I never figured this out! Ive probably had this for 10 years! I'm 27 btw. I'm going to the doctor to get a blood test tomorrow to confirm this. It's been a very rough few day's! With everyday getting worse!! I'm not very emotional but I'm on the verge of breaking down and crying every 10 mins! I feel like my life will never be the same! I met the greatest guy that I started dating 4 months ago. We been taking this slow and haven't slept together yet. How am I going to tell him this?? Or anyone! I'm so embarrassed to say anything to anybody! How could I have been so dumb and not realize I've had this... :(

sorry, I didn't mean to write a book.

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Don't be sorry at all. However I would suggest you do not self diagnose. After all, there is nothing on earth we cannot talk ourselves into!

Request a test, be very detailed and ask for an IgG antibody test type specific for HSV-1 and HSV-2. This will advance your thinking and provide useful information as your genital herpes possibility.

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Everything's gonna be okay <3 Just breathe. Tbh, I found out basically the same way you did. I came to the realization that that's what I had. I even went through pregnancy and birthing without being aware of my status. Your life is not over.  I sometimes go through the 'motions too. But, now that I'm getting older, I've come to realize that there are far worse things in life than being diagnosed with this.  Now, I see it as a way of weeding out the ones that aren't as serious about a long term relationship as I am. 

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I agree with Ashia.  You say you may already have had herpes for 10 years and only had a few outbreaks in a year, so just take a step back from how you are feeling now and think about that.  It really hasn't been that bad or changed your life in any significant way has it?  So what's different now :)?  If you have been dating a guy for four months without getting physical and he is happy about that, he is obviously someone who is serious about you and cares very much.  I feel sure he isn't going to change his mind when you tell him you have herpes.  

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I went to the doctor today and was told that they didn't wanna give me the blood test if I've ever had a cold sore because it would then be positive no matter what. And they only way they could know for sure is if I had an outbreak and got a culture test. But that could take a long time!  What if I don't have one for a year or more!?

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Yes if you have always had cold sores it was shown hsv1 but they can also test for HSv2  antibodies.  There are people who find out they have hsv2 and have never have an outbreak through a blood test

Just now, Lisajd said:

Self diagnosed myself Thursday with genital herpes.. I just got out of a 10 year relationship about 2 years ago. I decided to start dating, so I went to the doctor to look at birth control options. I got my yearly physical, everything went good! After talking to A friend, I was told that during your physical they don't test for all stds? I thought that was odd.. But I decided to research other stds, where I came across genital herpes. I was immediately shocked! The image in my head, from the stories I've heard about what herpes looked like, vs what they looked like in reality were very different! I knew right away I have this!! I thought back to the time I went to the doctor 9 years ago pregnant and my doctor says I just had sensitive skin and to stop shaving. I've always assumed since then that I just have very sensitive skin and never mentioned it to any other doctors, I didn't see the need to. I only got it maybe 2 or 3 times a year anyway! And it went away after a few days. Or 4 years ago when I went to she a specialist because it would burn so bad every time I peed! And he couldn't find anything wrong with me! Why was I never tested! But once I seen the pictures of what it looks like and reading people's storys, I know that's what this is! I can't believe I never figured this out! Ive probably had this for 10 years! I'm 27 btw. I'm going to the doctor to get a blood test tomorrow to confirm this. It's been a very rough few day's! With everyday getting worse!! I'm not very emotional but I'm on the verge of breaking down and crying every 10 mins! I feel like my life will never be the same! I met the greatest guy that I started dating 4 months ago. We been taking this slow and haven't slept together yet. How am I going to tell him this?? Or anyone! I'm so embarrassed to say anything to anybody! How could I have been so dumb and not realize I've had this... :(

sorry, I didn't mean to write a book.

 

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@A27 it sounds the the doctor may not be thinking of the type specific IgG blood test for HSV-1 and HSV-2. You can request this specific test and there is no reason why a doctor would refuse this. Ask for an STD panel including herpes from this or another doctor - most will do this in the interests of your health.

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Si usted tiene hsv1 oral y usted piensa que tiene genital hsv 1 puede solicitar un análisis de HSV tipo 2 mientras espera a que tenga un brote y hacer una cultivo

Y no te preocupes, también me autodiagnostico porque los médicos no les importa

@A27

If you have oral hsv1 and you think you have genital hsv 1 you can request an HSV type 2 test while you wait for it to have an outbreak and do a culture

And do not worry, I also self-diagnose because doctors do not care

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