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Hi, 

As the title states, I was just diagnosed with hsv2. My heart is completely broken. I feel so alone. I know exactly how I got it. It was the only time I ever had sex outside of a committed relationship. I hate myself for it and I'm afraid I'll never forgive myself. I feel like I will never feel the way I used to. I used to be funny and carefree and now I can't stop crying. 

I'm wondering if anyone has any advice on how to cope? I've never felt so low. 

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Hi welcome to sg. You will find plenty of helpful info and support here.  First of all you are going through what all of us have.  Secondly dont beat yourself up.  Sometimes we do things for a reason and those reasons can lead to wrong decisions.  Remember even the safest person can get hsv. Its the nature of the virus. The best thing you can do is educate yourself.  That and time plus being kinder to yourself will help.  the way i cope is to actually put it into perspective and I also realise that there are worse off things that I could have and that it does not stop me from leading a normal life.

I often say what is the worst thing about having herpes and what does it stop you from doing and then really look at that and ask yourself are those things you have stated actually true.  Everyone seems to worry that they will never be able to be in a relationship but there really is no evidence to suggest that you can't and the fact is this is a very common virus so you are likely to meet someone who has it already.

In terms of how and who.  How were you tested?  Did you get an outbreak?  Have you tested before your interaction with the guy

It does get easier in time. 

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I think it's hardest for me because my poor decision lead to a consequence that I cannot undo. I had been tested once before. I was tested 10 days after I had sex and my initial results (igm) were negative for hsv 2, but positive for hsv 1 (I knew that was from kissing my ex boyfriend). 4 days later I began to have an outbreak and my igg results came back positive. The doctor said I would've contracted it about 2 weeks before so I know it's from one night. The worst mistake I think I've ever made. 

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What was the number on your igg test?  It actually takes 3 months for antibodies to develop so your test results would indicate that you have it longer than 3 months.  When you first were tested was there an igg results then or only igm because igm are not accurate

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I think I switched igg and igm in my reply on accident. They were both taken 10 days after and I was only positive for the one that shows after a recent infection. The doctor essentially confirmed it was from the night I recently had sex. 

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I'm also having what appears to be an outbreak. It started with some itching and discharge, then I had a fissure open on my labia. Now it looks a little bumpy where it was itchy but no blisters have formed yet. The doctor started valtrex a week ago to be safe so everything has been mild. 

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So if your igm result is positive that is not an accurate dx. Doctors should know this.  What was your igg result?

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I'm not sure what the number was. He just said it was negative, and concluded the symptoms I was experiencing must be an outbreak because of the proof of recent exposure. I'm going to the gynecologist today for more information. 

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Get copies of your test results best to see it yourself and for your records

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I'm not sure what the number was. He just said it was negative, and concluded the symptoms I was experiencing must be an outbreak because of the proof of recent exposure. I'm going to the gynecologist today for more information. 

 

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My igm was 1.16 for hsv2. That was from blood taken 10 days after exposure when igg was still negative. My gyno agrees that because of my symptoms it's safe to conclude I'm hsv2 positive. She said I could get my igg checked in a month if I want to but it's not like anything is gonna change. I'm trying my best to accept what is. 

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Did you have a sore on genitals?  sounds like you did. Did dr swab it? discuss with your gyno let us know what gyno says.

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My igm was 1.16 for hsv2. That was from blood taken 10 days after exposure when igg was still negative. My gyno agrees that because of my symptoms it's safe to conclude I'm hsv2 positive. She said I could get my igg checked in a month if I want to but it's not like anything is gonna change. I'm trying my best to accept what is. 

 

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I had a cut a few days ago. No traditional blisters or sores. Just some itching and irritation in an area. 

No swab, just a blood test. 

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If you did not get a swab you shld get an igg test.  An igm is not reliable and does not always mean its recent

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