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I'm Midwestpositivity and I'm just new to this whole thing. Today is my 21st birthday (yay) and I am a gay male in a monogamous relationship (my current boyfriend didn't give it to me and is informed of my diagnosis.) I joined this forum because I really want to share but I'm still not 100% sure on who I can share this with. I was told I had herpes by a doctor after feeling extreme itching sensations on my anus for what seemed like a couple years without any visible manifestation of herpes. I always was able to come up with a reason e.g. I was wiping wrong, I'm devolping hemerroids etc. It started this winter. I'm currently studying in Norway for a semester and when I was cleaning myself in the shower I found a lump. I did some research and I thought it was a skin tag maybe. I didn't do anything about it. Flash forward to the last week of March when I was experiencing itching so bad I just couldn't concentrate or ignore it. I checked myself out in the mirror and my stomach sank. No one prepares you how to feel when you become a picture in a middle school health book. It looked intense but I didn't (still don't) know how severe my case is. It looked like genital warts to me but I was mainly just really scared. Now I haven't had unsafe anal sex since the summer but I've also had that itching sensation for a while now, I was very befuddled. I booked an appointment and he took one look and said it was herpes. I was put on a 5%  topical solution of Zorfirax and I did the prescribed amount. It felt like it had improved? But when I ran out I still could feel that it hadn't cleared up and it almost felt like the sensations have continued to be intense. It's very disheartening.

Now moving onto my name. Yes, I am a very positive person and from the midwest but this is kind of wearing me down. I am determined that this is not the end of me. This is not a death sentence. It just f-ing sucks. Ugh. I'm going to schedule another appointment, maybe get on an antiviral treatment. I've seen a lot of people suggest coconut oil both as an internal and external product so I'm going to start using that. I just want to live as normally as possible.

If anyone is going through something similar like having genital herpes, being gay/queer with herpes, or hell just being from the Midwest, I'd love to chat! I'm hoping to get involved on this forum as much as I can. Say hi, please! :)



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Hi Midwestpositivity (loooooong alias but very nice)

Reading your name I think about western riding and Quarterhorses. But that is personal.

I'm sorry you caught the virus that brought us here. But good you came to this place.

After reading  your history I wonder, is your diagnosis only visual by one doc? No bloodwork or swabs? If this has not been done, I would recommend you to take an IGg blood test. Not IGm, And if you turn out to really have HSV1 or 2 genital and have many outbreaks you might consider antiviral medication like Valtrex.

And another question, I noticed the Swedish seem to put white sause on every hot meal. Is that the same in Norway?

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Hey! I'm dystopian and I just got diagnosed with herpes. I have been sexually active with my boyfriend for almost 5 years ( we took each others virginity) and I am just now having an outbreak. I have been struggling a lot personally, but it makes me feel better knowing that 80% of people have herpes. So, you have a friend in me! and I am from the midwest USA :)

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