Getting Creative

[Antoinette63]

Just wondering what you all have done to prevent spreading genital herpes /HSV-2 to a partner who does not have it.

Besides using condoms, the only thing I can think of is having the guy I'm dating keep his briefs on so there's no skin to skin contact. And of course not having sex during outbreaks.

Any other ideas??

[Nightmare7575]

I was also thinking keeping briefs on and using a condom would be a great idea,how has it worked out so far ?  this could even be a line of sex clothing. . 

 

Even though I do not have a partner now  I am getting ready [lol] ,I think sex toys not shared , Masturbation ,mutual Masturbation ,breast play,nipple play, Oral with a condom  ,dental dams  for oral on the female.   

[Lisajd]

So I assume the guy you are with is ok with taking the risk and if you go to the nth degree of protection that is going to put more focus on the virus that actually enjoying a healthy sexual relationship.   Have you actually talked to him about what he wants to do

[Nightmare7575]

Lisajd  If you have boxer short on or something tight  that covers all  the area with a hole for the penis  and a condom what is the risk since all boxer short areas are covered ? We have al read on here about people taking antiviral and still passing it on,so why not protect your partner as much as possible. Its not my community, but I think people in the bondage community have used shorts like these for years,so why not expand on them.  

Edited July 16, 2017 by Nightmare7575

[rainbow85]

I can relate to this. My last boyfriend of two years cheated on me and brought home herpes. He showed symptoms but I didn't and figured I didn't catch it. Long story short we broke up. A few months later I had a blood test because I read you can have it with no symptoms. I tested positive for type 2. Not long after I had an outbreak. It was vary mild, one small sore. Lasted about a week, now two years later I still only get one small sore in the same spot about 3times in a year. One year ago I met a new guy and was completely honest about my situation. He liked me anyway and we are together to this day but we don't have sex we use toys and I hate it.  I need that physical contact of a real man. He said he can't stay hard with condoms but he has tried and wore boxers to protect the rest. It didn't go so well he can't stay hard so the past few months we don't do anything sexual I can't get turned on just by toys I feel so ugly and depressed. I respect him and love him for trying to be with me but I feel it's not going to work out. I am not happy. I feel guilty for even hoping and thinking that he should take the risk for me. I could easily spend the rest of my life with him he is a really good guy but I don't think I can do this.  Emotionally it hurts more loving someone I can't touch then to just be alone the rest of my life.

[Lisajd]

@rainbow85 you need to have your needs met and if this is emiotuinally hard maybe its time to part ways.  Hes not getting what he wants either.  There are guys who dont worry about the risks.  I have dated guys who dont use condoms.  I take antivirals. If they have hsv1 then that reduces risk.  You deserve to be with someone who is ok with it.  Your bf is not really

[rainbow85]

7 minutes ago, Lisajd said:

@rainbow85 you need to have your needs met and if this is emiotuinally hard maybe its time to part ways.  Hes not getting what he wants either.  There are guys who dont worry about the risks.  I have dated guys who dont use condoms.  I take antivirals. If they have hsv1 then that reduces risk.  You deserve to be with someone who is ok with it.  Your bf is not really

Thank you for responding. We got into an argument today about this. He said I was being selfish.

[Nightmare7575]

If this was a sex board I think most would say he cannot get an erection  because of  his emotional state and what he is thinking ,the condom thing is an excuse just like it is when guys don't want to use one when the couple has nothing, he is afraid of catching it if he has intercourse  . He could always try the pills if he really want to stay hard and really wants intercourse ,but it reads like he is just afraid of catching it if he is inside you.  He is already pulling away by not having any kind of sex. You might need to sit him down and say [I understand you are afraid of catching this and I don't want you to catch it either,but  ] and go on from there.

[Lisajd]

I had been with a guy when diagnosed.  He would not have sex but wanted me to give him a bj. He would not do oral and it made me feel crap.  I told him no more.  Its not fair on you or him

[Nightmare7575]

I think this is why ideas to work around it are GREAT,so everybody feels comfortable which is a huge part of any kind of sex. The guy who does not want to wear a rubber ,making an excuse in my mind and now its turned psychological so he can't get hard,but if you have two partners  that really want to make something work you can do it and make it FUN.

The first woman I every met with HSV2 was back in the middle 80s[I am that old lol] and a huge part of our sex was oral,I don't think I ever thought of HSV1 then and I would go down on her for days . I guess the strain is stronger now days or more talked about.