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I just found out I am positive for herpes. Just like everyone my heart is so heavy. Haven't ate all day & been crying. It's my first break out. I was hoping the lesions and sores were just from rough sex but no....today is my first day of Valtrex. Please tell me I won't be suffering like this in the future....will I ever be clear for years? I'm so depressed 

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Hi Sweetshorty

Welcome to the forum! I completely understand how you feel (I think all of us on here do!). It's incredibly confronting and scary when you are first diagnosed. The good news is that it really does get MUCH easier to handle over time. The first 12 months are by far the worst but once your immune system adjusts most people have much fewer and less severe outbreaks. Many people only ever have one outbreak.

Do you know what type of HSV you have? What tests were you given?

It can also be reassuring to remind yourself that, although it can certainly feel that way, the reality is you are definitely NOT alone: the overwhelming majority of people have HSV: around 90% of the world's population has one or both strains of the virus. This means that if you DON'T have HSV, you are in the vast MINORITY! There's a very good chance that anybody you chose to disclose to may well say 'yeah me too'!

The article below put this into perspective for me. It made me realize that I had just joined a much bigger club than I was previously in AFTER my diagnosis.


Although I'm sure it doesn't feel that way right now, for most an HSV diagnosis is not a huge deal in the longer term. You just learn to adjust and live with it (like 90% of the world's population!).

Try to stay strong and positive. You can and will learn to live with this. And feel free to get in touch if you're struggling!

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@Sweetshorty The virus affects us all differently depending on our immune systems response. Yes, this is tough time right now but you will find your way. Dont let it stop you from living your life.

You will fine. Just have to make adjustmets. You will find a lot of support and information here. 

Hang in sweetie.  

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I was diagnosed just 5 months ago.  The first few weeks after finding out were really hard on me emotionally, but after everything healed up, I honestly forgot about it.  Just give it some time, it WILL get better.

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9 hours ago, Sweetshorty said:

I just found out I am positive for herpes. Just like everyone my heart is so heavy. Haven't ate all day & been crying. It's my first break out. I was hoping the lesions and sores were just from rough sex but no....today is my first day of Valtrex. Please tell me I won't be suffering like this in the future....will I ever be clear for years? I'm so depressed 

What I would recommend is that you try and take an Epsom salt bath but you do need to make sure you are aware of which type you have because that is important in terms of symptoms and risks.  But I really suggest you do is educate yourself about which type you have and you will see that your life can go on.  The way herpes works is that your immune system needs to be able to suppress the virus meaning that you need to be healthy it is like the flu it comes and goes and he does need to avoid getting sick or stressed or run down so that you do not get out breaks

If you actually have hsv1 you will have less outbreaks at any rate

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