Virus triggered by sex only!

[jzsmalls]

Does anyone have sex as their main or only trigger?

I had my first outbreak 7 years ago then nothing.  In the past year I have an ob every time I have sex. Tried lots of lube and it still happens.

i am on suppressive and take suppliments. 

Will sex always be trigger or will my body get better at fighting the disease? It is a huge bummer to be in constant pain after sex.

[SnowAngel]

This is exactly what happens to me  although I do have other triggers as well. I can't have sex without it causing horrible burning pain for 3 or 4 days later. I can't start a new relationship because who's not going to what to have intercorse . 

[lali]

omg seriiously? this scares the shit out of me

[Lisajd]

I personally don't have any issues when I have sex but it also depends on how vigorous the sex is.  They do say that friction can cause outbreaks however how is your mindset why you are having the sex because I know when I was first diagnosed my mind was just focused on herpes herpes herpes and worrying about it even though the person was ok with it and I wonder whether some of it is a mental aspect.  Just a thought anyway

[jzsmalls]

I have actually tried not to think about it, and it only crosses my mind the next day or so. I don't really meditate, but the last few times I have tried to have positive intention thoughts that I will stay healthy and that my body is strong and will fight it. But then, boom here it comes. 

[SnowAngel]

Ugh I know how you feel jzsmalls  I miss being intimate with someone so so much. I honestly want to go on dating site and tell the guys I meet that I can't have actual Intercorse but I can do oral sex and touching. Do you think that's crazy? I just hate that I was given this virus by a guy who did not disclose and who dies not give a crap about my health and now I'm the one stuck not being able to even begin a new relationship, it's heartbreaking. 

[jzsmalls]

In a way I am lucky that I am married and do not have to deal with disclosing it to anyone. Being married though, it is really tough to not be able to have or enjoy regular sex with my husband. When we were dating I never had this problem, it has started happening in the past year. Ugh. 

[SnowAngel]

I'm sorry  it's so awful we have to live like this. How long have you had it? Are you a bit older? I heard it can flare up a lot during menopause. Have you tried Amitriptlyn? I'm on that for Vulvadynia pain.  

[jzsmalls]

I am 38 and yes I am wondering if menopause onset is the cause.