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I havent been diagnosed with hsv2 yet but the signs are all clear . Im scared out my mind im 22 and i feel like my life is over . The crazy part is i always used protection .... The irony , im in so much pain all i can do is lay here and cry idk what to do anymore ... Any advice or support would be greatly appreciated 

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Hi. Welcome if you have it you have come to a place where there is much support and information. why do you think you have herpes? It usually shows up 2 - 10 days afer contact, unless it has been dormant.  Do you have a sore? If you do you should see a dr and get it swabbed.

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Hi honey! I'm in my 20s too! Recently diagnosed a month ago. I know exactly how you feel. I was always smart about sex too. Just so happens condoms don't protect against HSV all the time and doesn't discriminate. Two people who really helped me those first couple of weeks are Dr. Kelly Shuh (chiropractor with HSV) and her website and pinktent.com, Dr. Shelia Loanzon (gynecologist with HSV), Kirsty Spraggon's Ted talk and Ella Dawson's Ted talk. 

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Just google them and you'll find info. It helped me to see "regular everyday people" going through the same thing.

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You are going to be okay. Listen to these great advisors here. They will help you get through this. Its not the end just a different beginning to life. You will learn to overcome. Plus, you are young and there will be a lot of things coming out in the couple or so years that will make this a non issue. So yeah it sucks now but it will get better tobthe point ot wont be an issue for you in five years.

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I don't think there is one person who has not about how are you do right now but the important thing is for you to go and get tested and find out what you actually have.  As an older person I can only imagine how I would have felt if I had found out I had herpes at a younger age but when I found out at 48 I also felt that my love life was over but it's turned out to be completely untrue.  What I do say to you is that you are young and just enjoy being young everyone seems to think they have to be dating and having sex and being in a relationship at the age of 19 and 20 and 21.  I got married at 23 and it was too young and thinking back now I would have so much preferred have been enjoying my life being young and doing all the great things that you can do in your life why you are young.  So if you do have herpes go and educate yourself about it and you will see that your life will go on and get up there and start living your life because herpes is not terminal and it doesn't stop me from doing anything it is only your thoughts about it that stops you from moving forward.   

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Thanks you guys i really appreciate it . Im getting tested this weekend but i had big blisters around my vagina and they were very painful accompined by fever , now the blisters are poped amd scabing but even thats a whole new pain . Ive recently had a blister like thing pop up on my tongue and i was reading you can also have it orally and im thinking thats what it is which is so horrible because i have two kids who ive been kissing .. I just keeps getting worse but thank you for taking yall time to comment yall dont know how appreciated yall are.

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I know you were under stress when you created your handle but you should think about a more positive one to reflect your hopefulness. State of mind is important in overcoming this thing. Just my opinion.

Hang in there friend

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As crazy as it seems, you shouldn't get too consumed with this unless you have conclusive testing done that confirms the diagnosis. 

Do not lose hope! 

Let us know your results when you get them, we are here for you. 

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Nothing has changed :)

Society is ugly. Herpes makes you see that. Even the doctors will disappoint you.

 

Many people have it, and everyone is hiding it. But you will come out stronger. You did nothing wrong, and nothing has changed. So remember that. And you will have wonderful amazing relationships, and a cure will be out soon anyway.

So cry, because we all did. But also, it's not life's fault. It's just that society is sick. So just carry on being amazing and at least the person you end up with will love you for who you are :heart:

 

Sending you a hug. :longhug:

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