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Recently diagnosed, literally caught H2 a few weeks ago from a guy I was dating (has since stopped talking to me because of it, fucking asshole). One stupid night of unprotected sex and two weeks later BAM! I am taking it better than I thought I would, thanks to blogs and support sites like this one.

My burning question (pun intended) is: Can I still receive oral sex?

I LOVE receiving oral and the thought that I can never get it again without a dental dam has honestly been the most upsetting reality of my diagnosis. I am on medication which I take twice a day and will not be jumping back into the dating world anytime soon, but I need to know for the future. 

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The risk of someone getting HSV 2 orally is quite rare but it is possible but if you disclose to someone and then it is up to them to decide.  If a person has their existing HSV 1 infection then they will most certainly won't get it

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Yes, you can still receive oral sex. Hsv2 doesn't really like to relocate to the mouth, though it is a good idea to avoid contact during outbreaks/when having symptoms. In addition, you can use suppressive antiviral medication and/or barrier methods such as the dental dam.

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Pretty much as Elle22 said. Although, I have read articles that indicate it's still easy to get it orally. I'm no expert, but I would think there has to be tearing. Tearing is pretty easy on your genitals during sex without you knowing, less so orally. However I'd think your lips crack a bit when they are chapped and stuff so those would likely account for small cuts/tears. Hopefully you live somewhere warm and humid :)

Remember, I'm no expert, just stuff I've read in the past.

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It is very hard to get orally, especially if the person already has HSV-1 orally, which is most people.

My partner is in the same boat with a huge LOVE of receiving oral sex... and that's most nights of the weeks.  I have no issues in providing this to her ;)

No dental dams or antivirals used. I admit that I do take comfort from my oral HSV-1 infection. 

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On 4/26/2017 at 2:30 AM, WilsoInAus said:

It is very hard to get orally, especially if the person already has HSV-1 orally, which is most people.

My partner is in the same boat with a huge LOVE of receiving oral sex... and that's most nights of the weeks.  I have no issues in providing this to her ;)

No dental dams or antivirals used. I admit that I do take comfort from my oral HSV-1 infection. 

What do you mean take comfort from your hsv1?

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5 minutes ago, Terrell said:

What do you mean take comfort from your hsv1?

He means since he already has ohsv1 it lessons the already low chance of her transmitting hsv2 to him orally, 

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Just now, Whyyyyy said:

He means since he already has ohsv1 it lessons the already low chance of her transmitting hsv2 to him orally, 

Oh okay so my case dr. Said I swabbed for hsv2 and my wife has hsv1 very high numbers so is it possible to continue married without her catching it?

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If you have ghsv2 you can still pass it to her genitally.  The hsv1 oral she has provides some immunity but does not mean she wont get it via sex.  You can give her oral as you dont have oral hsv.  She can give you ghsv1 thru oral sex still.  

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9 hours ago, Lisajd said:

If you have ghsv2 you can still pass it to her genitally.  The hsv1 oral she has provides some immunity but does not mean she wont get it via sex.  You can give her oral as you dont have oral hsv.  She can give you ghsv1 thru oral sex still.  

Interesting, I could have sworn I read that halford published or mentioned somewhere that if you get HSV2 initially, you won't get HSV1, there is immunity towards it. but if you get hsv1 there is no immunity built up for hsv2, its still a possibility. 

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18 minutes ago, justanothersufferer said:

Interesting, I could have sworn I read that halford published or mentioned somewhere that if you get HSV2 initially, you won't get HSV1, there is immunity towards it. but if you get hsv1 there is no immunity built up for hsv2, its still a possibility. 

My understanding (but there is always information that contradicts!) is that in general HSV2 (established infection) provides some immunity against HSV1 but this does not rule it out completely. You will find that most people that have both type 1 and 2 got type 1 first. Of course there are a lot of reasons for this including the large amount of people acquiring HSV1 orally during childhood (long before they would have a chance to be exposed to HSV2).

I have also read an article (maybe @JBnATL remembers the one?) that said an established HSV1 infection also provides some immunity against HSV2 but nowhere near as strong as the reverse. I think location can always play a part in the odds as well. In the case of one partner with oral HSV1 and the other with gHSV2 I think it's unlikely to transmit the HSV2 to the HSV1 partner when the HSV1 is performing oral sex. But in general, HSV2 doesn't like to be oral - far more than HSV1 doesn't like to be genital.

There are SO many more things that play into the transmission odds that we will never fully know - so best to take reasonable precautions (no action during OBs, etc) but remember to enjoy and live your life!

Clear as mud, no?

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I know someone who got ghsv1 and had hsv2 already. Like you say not clear and the virus is unpredictable. It comes down to many variables with both people.

38 minutes ago, JBnATL said:

I think this is the article @LiveLife100 was referring to.

JB

This is where i got my info too.  A good read

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On 4/28/2017 at 10:40 AM, LiveLife100 said:

My understanding (but there is always information that contradicts!) is that in general HSV2 (established infection) provides some immunity against HSV1 but this does not rule it out completely. You will find that most people that have both type 1 and 2 got type 1 first. Of course there are a lot of reasons for this including the large amount of people acquiring HSV1 orally during childhood (long before they would have a chance to be exposed to HSV2).

I have also read an article (maybe @JBnATL remembers the one?) that said an established HSV1 infection also provides some immunity against HSV2 but nowhere near as strong as the reverse. I think location can always play a part in the odds as well. In the case of one partner with oral HSV1 and the other with gHSV2 I think it's unlikely to transmit the HSV2 to the HSV1 partner when the HSV1 is performing oral sex. But in general, HSV2 doesn't like to be oral - far more than HSV1 doesn't like to be genital.

There are SO many more things that play into the transmission odds that we will never fully know - so best to take reasonable precautions (no action during OBs, etc) but remember to enjoy and live your life!

Clear as mud, no?

Hsv1 is lately the majority of gential infections 

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