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my partner´s amazing, i´m afraid

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yesterday i had a conversation with my partner and she gave me her suport she told me tha she is with me until the end it was something incredible i feel with hope again i want to share with her my best but i believe she doesn´t understand the risk for her and she´d put her safety on my hands she told me that i decide when we can´t having sex

we love each other i love her now hundreds more than before and i relly valorate what she loves me and that she´s with me now

that makes me feel a lot of fear abot transmit this virus to her it would really make me feel like trash

please help i need to know of you who have a long relation with a person without transmission of this virus how to do it the best way

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My partner has oral HSV, and I knew that before we became involved. We'd been close friends for several years before we realized that there was something more than friendship between us. I knew the risks of contracting HSV, but my love for him far outweighed any fears I had.

It took 7 years of intimacy between us before I had my first ob. We never used protection, but we abstained during his infrequent ob's. I got genital HSV from oral sex. Yes, at first it was a shock, but then I realized that the alternative would have been to forgo a relationship that has become central to my very existence. After a rough first few months, my symptoms have now subsided to the point where I'm very rarely bothered by them. Do I have any regrets about taking the chance? No, not one. I would make the same choice tomorrow if I could.

My point is, that if you and your partner remain together for the long term, chances are good that she'll eventually contract it. Those are the odds. But it could take years if you practice reasonable precautions like avoiding sex during your ob's. When you consider the alternative, which would be to end the relationship, is that so terrible?

Some things in life are worth risking everything on. Love is one of them. If she understands the risks, and is willing to take that chance to be with you, count your lucky stars, and be grateful that you found someone who loves you that much. There are worse things in life than herpes... like letting your fears keep you from being with the one you love. Hugs.

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