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I know no one can know until he gets tested, but I was just wondering if anyone could tell me the likelihood that my partner may have HSV.

I just found out this week that I am GHSV2 positive and suspect I had my first OB August 2017, because I got 1 small sore while I had a yeast infection, I didn't think anything of it and wasn't in the country to go to my doctor about it then. I just had my suspected 2nd outbreak over a week ago which was when I got tested. I told my partner and he is getting tested this weekend. However, we have been having unprotected sex in that time frame. While I haven't had an OB, at least not that I know of, in that time what is the chances of him being infected too? And would the risk increase if we had unprotected sex when my most recent OB wasn't completely healed? 

If anyone could also tell me the chances of me transferring my GHSV2 to my mouth by giving my partner oral after we had unprotected sex?


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Hi, so there are some published studies about transmission rates in various scenarios (I.e; condom, no condom, meds, etc..) but not sure how helpful they'll really be. I say that as clearly your partner will have been at risk of acquiring HSV from you, especially as no condom was used AND you still had a sore - so it's binary in that he'll either now have HSV or he won't, BUT the chances he got it couldn't really be higher..

As for the oral transmission. If he didn't get genital HSV from the sex than there is NO risk of you getting oral HSV by sucking on his Twinkie. Even if he did get genital HSV from you, the risk of you getting oral HSV from performing oral sex is extremely low, but not impossible. Basically, you have HSV-2 and so have the antibodies that should be able to prevent a new infection in a new location such as the mouth. Oral HSV-2 is also supposed to be very rare as it loves cock n' pussy alot more than the mouth. So, even if you got HSV-2 orally it would likely be bored AF and not do a whole lot as it's not the location it likes to play in - can't blame it really. ;)


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Thank you so much for your reply @K_Sock!

So the risk is higher because we had unprotected sex for such a long period of time without knowing I was infected, but there is still the chance he didn't get infected? At least there is that hope.

I am more concerned with the most recent exposure due to there being the sore, but hopefully his doctor will be able to tell him when to get tested, what test and if he might need to get retested in the future. 

As for the oral HSV2, that's good to hear. I wasn't really too concerned cause I've never shown any symptoms on my face, but again after the other night the thought popped into my head if that was a way for me to infect a different part of my body. 

I'm still worried for him but that won't pass until we get the test results back. Part of me is more ok if he does have it cause then there'd be less precautions we'd have to take if he wanted to continue a sexual relationship with me. But I know in my heart I don't want him to just cause I know he wouldn't be ok with it. 

Thank you so much again! 

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      Yeah @FirstTimeUser there is nothing in the pic suggestive of genital herpes. It seems both you and your partner have HSV-1 orally and that's actually pretty cool. It means you won't pass it to each other's genitals owing to immunity. If the two of you are concerned about genital HSV-2 then mutually test for the IgG HSV-2 and HSV-1 antibodies.
    • CHT
      Hi "firstimeuser".... let's see what "WilsoinAus" thinks but, for what's it worth, I don't see anything in your picture (or description) that looks like herpes..... it actually looks more like a scrape or follicle issue.... maybe even a bug bite.  Also, by the way, the odds of having HSV2 with an outbreak on your testicles is very low.... that is not a typical spot for an HSV2 outbreak.    Have your doctor take a look and if you want some peace of mind, get an IgG antibody test for HSV2 in about 12 weeks (takes that long for antibodies to develop).... but, again, I don't think you have anything to worry about here.... just not seeing anything herpes-related here.    take care....best of luck.
    • CHT
      Hi Marlena..... since you stated you've had "herpes on the lips" then you likely have oral HSV1, which the majority of adults worldwide have... the fact your results for HSV1/2 are positive (at least I believe that's what your results show - I don't speak Polish but, I think I'm seeing your results are positive based on the attachment you included) may simply be reading the fact that you have HSV1.... the question is whether you've contracted HSV2 in your genital area. Your description of symptoms could possibly be related to HSV but, it's difficult to verify with certainty based on your description. You may also have contracted a different type of sexually transmitted infection (STI) or a simple fungal infection.   Your doctor does not believe what he/she is seeing is HSV but, unless your doctor has experience with HSV, they could easily misdiagnose your condition.  You need full STI testing. Do you have the option to travel to a larger city in Poland where you could get an appointment to be seen by a doctor with more experience with STIs?  You really need to have an experienced doctor take a look and run tests to check specifically for HSV2 as well as other STIs.  If they can rule out HSV2 or other STIs then hopefully they can then determine what is causing the redness, itching, and swollen condition.... again, it may not be HSV2 but, you need proper testing to verify.  Have you talked to your boyfriend about all this?  Has he had any symptoms on his genitals that are suspect?  Has he taken any tests to check for STIs?   I hope you can get more definitive testing so you know what you are dealing with and how best to treat it.  If you have any other questions/concerns, please come back and let us know.... I hope this helps a little.... best of luck.... take care.
    • CHT
      Hey Jeremy.... I know only too well that emotional pain you are feeling.... I really do.... and many of us on this site also know that pain.  It's not so much the physical side of having HSV that hurts, it's the stigma and risk of rejection that stings like hell!  You have to do what you think is right as it relates to when you disclose your HSV status when getting to know someone romantically.... I just think it's best to do it relatively early, and certainly before any sexual activity.   Have you looked into dating sites that cater to those with HSV?  I know others have had some luck with meeting partners on these sites.... you don't have to worry about the "disclosure" talk nor would you obviously have to worry about passing along a virus the other person already has.... take a few minutes and search around and see if it's an option you like. By the way, by taking your daily antiviral med and using a condom, your risk of passing along the virus is down around 1.9%.... pretty good odds that if you stick to your regimen you are very unlikely to transmit the virus....keep that in mind when you meet your next girlfriend and need to have "the talk."  That statistic might help calm any concerns about contracting the virus from you. I hope you don't give up.... as tough as it can be to find the right partner, it's still worth trying.... try to stay optimistic and look into some alternate options and see what happens.... all the best.... take care.
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