Newly diagnosed and feeling down

[TWDFanx3]

Just found out Monday and even though my closest friends and family are there to support me I still feel alone. I had my very first outbreak last week and my boyfriend had his on Monday, the day I was diagnosed. I feel lost and alone even though everyone is here for me for support

[bella pink]

I totally know how you feel my first outbreak I had in January and it was awful. It gets better keep your head up!

[Mesho]

I can feel you, i have been diagnosed acouple days ago& it was my first kiss&oral sex, i wish to die now actually. Now iam having outbreak its bad,i only think about suicide now, i think about breaking my engagement, i cant put her to this shit. 

[brownsugg]

I was diagnosed with HSV2 on March 22nd of 2017 after suffering from a horrible OB that lasted 2 weeks. I was 17 years old when I was diagnosed, and I felt so alone. I called my ex (who at the time I thought gave it to me) and completely went off on him accusing him of giving me this disease. For the days following he was supportive and encouraging, but then that stopped once I realized he couldn't have been the one to give this to me and I told him. The guy I now believe gave me HSV is currently in a relationship and is trying to convince himself that since he isn't showing any symptoms then he must no have the disease. I feel so shitty because he's indirectly placing the blame on me and talking about how his entire life will be ruined if he tests positive. Like lol what about me dude? The girl you gave it to, remember me? Anyways, I've come to terms with the disease now. When you think about it, it's really just an annoying reoccurring skin condition. It takes more of an emotional toll on you rather than a physical one because of the stigma wrapped around it. I've already crossed the barrier of realizing I have HSV, the next barrier is telling my current love interest that I'm infected. I'm absolutely terrified of doing so because we've already had protected sex. I don't know how to have this discussion with him. Any tips? 

[TWDFanx3]

Thank you Bella for being the support. I appreciate more than you will ever know.   Mesho, coming from a recovered self harmer, suicide is not a way out. This is not your fault. Please don't call off your engagement. If she truly loves you, you will overcome this.

[Lisajd]

Its a virus not a disease.  Its not terminal and you can lead a normal life. It just takes time.  Ask yourself what is the worst thing about having herpes.  What does hsv stop you doing in life.  Most people worry about the stigma and being judged and rejected but at the end of the day most people have it and don't even know they have it and until you get out there and start dating how do you know that someone will reject you. You don't know their own circumstances or how they feel about it.

@brownsugg probably not ideal to be telling him after you've had sex if you were aware that you had it but all you can do is be honest and tell him.  Or say to him we need to go get tested and then go from there

[TWDFanx3]

My boyfriend is still with me and he's also infected as well. He had his outbreak the day of my diagnosis. But yet he still tells me everyday that he loves me, still wants to be with me & still finds me attractive.