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I just found out 3 days ago. I'm 51 and I take care of my twin 6 month old grd babies. I'm so paranoid I can't hardly touch them. They are my heart and I scared to death to give it to them. I've only been tested by blood. I get rashes on my waist and lower back around to my front and on my buttocks. Never had one in private area. Scared the ones on my back could spread to them. Paranoid at every bump on my body now. Every time I itch. Taking antiviral and lysine and zinc.  Help please. 

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I know exactly how you feel!  I'm 61 and just contracted H from a new man in my life.  He had no idea he had it (and yes, I believe him).  I am just about over my first (and may I say, OMG the worst burning pain in the world!!) outbreak and I pray I don't have any more.  I've been taking Valtrex for almost a week now.  But I have been scared to death to do anything near people, including my 6 year old granddaughter.  She often just grabs my iced tea and drinks from it, as well as kissing on the lips.  I told her I was getting over being "sick" so she shouldn't get near my face, but that doesn't stop me from being paranoid about any touch at all.

I wish I had advice to give you, but I'm just getting over (well, not REALLY) the shock of having this at all.  My blisters have all been in the genital to rectum area, and I find myself scrubbing my hands after using the bathroom.  And then I worry someone might touch my towel!  This is so hard to cope with!  So, I truly sympathize with you!!  I hope in time that we can calm down over this or that it lessens in severity.

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Welcome to the group it is difficult at first and once you learn about the virus you will see you that it can only be contracted by skin to skin contact.  Once you get over your first outbreak your feel a lot better but it is important to maintain a healthy immune system.

@proudgrdma have you checked with the blisters that you're experiencing on your back are actually herpes blisters because normally genital HSV does not appear in the area that you are describing.   The rash is actually could be something else if you were taking valtrex you might be allergic reaction or stress rash.  

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