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Hi folks,

Been trolling the forums for about a day, since I took my "allergic reaction/ UTI/ definitely not herpes but please dear god make it go away" to my Obgyn. She took one look and said "herpes lesions," at which point I lost the ability to focus on what she was telling me. 

Waiting to hear on whether it's HSV 1 or 2, and trying to cope with the outbreak (dozens of lesions in and around my vagina as well as massive flu symptoms and body aches) as well as a UTI and bacterial infection. Literally my purse is full to bursting with meds. Doc put me on Valtrex along with an antibiotic and a pain reliever. 

Going to try not to ask a million questions, but the short backstory is that I recently broke up with my long term boyfriend and have been massively stressed at work and with being MOH in my best friends wedding. Was ripe for some sort of something, for sure. I've recently started seeing someone new, and started sleeping with him a few weeks ago. With the severity of this OB, is it safe to assume it's really the initial one? And if so, is it a safe bet to think I got this from the new guy? 

I'm not angry or anything, I truly don't believe it was knowingly or intentional if he did give it to me. However, in trying to accept all this, I'm trying to wrap my head around what my dating life will look like in the near future and if I can safely bet that it came from him, the discussion about this and subsequent sex life looks a bit more appealing than the alternatives.

Sorry to ramble ... already so grateful to the folks on here <3 much love 

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@DuckDuckGoose  Welcome more than likely it is the new guy typically people get an outbreak from 2 - 20 from exposure. Did the dr swab the sore?  Were meds prescribed? are you still experieincing the outbreak. Usually the first outbreak is the worst.  Sometimes hsv 1 or 2 takes time to show up in igg bloodtests as it may take time for antibodies to show up, Dont worry you can have sex after being diagnosed, you will be more picky. Some folks are asymtomatic, some have it for long time without outbreask and stress can bring it on, very strange unpredictable virus.

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Thanks @LillianPanos ... Doc swabbed one of the manyyyyyyy sores and said she was able to get a good sample. Didn't bother with a blood test though. She prescribed Valtrex, Cipro, Vicodin, another something for the bacterial infection, and a few OTC meds to supplement. Still in the midst of this OB ... started feeling like shit on this past Sunday (it's now Friday) and sores are starting to heal now. 

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14 minutes ago, DuckDuckGoose said:

Thanks @LillianPanos ... Doc swabbed one of the manyyyyyyy sores and said she was able to get a good sample. Didn't bother with a blood test though. She prescribed Valtrex, Cipro, Vicodin, another something for the bacterial infection, and a few OTC meds to supplement. Still in the midst of this OB ... started feeling like shit on this past Sunday (it's now Friday) and sores are starting to heal now. 

2- 20 days. Ok I had big sore, mine lasted over 6 weeks in such painand despair, I have very minimal outbreaks after the first one in March 2016. It seems like everyone is different i got much relief from the meds which my dr didnt origianlly prescribe she said only take during ob, but I met a great guy as I was diagnosed so I have been on the meds since then. also I use cocont oil. and tea tree oil combined when i feel something down there. i have had weird feelings down there since I got this. but it is getting better. And my attitude of acceptance much better. I came to this site and much help from the people here.

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