I just got my positive HSV diagnosis today, and I don't know what to do. Quite honestly I feel like nothing will ever be okay again, I could use some advice, tips, support, anything. Please.
Yesterday I found out that I have both HSV2 and hsv1. I’ve never had an out break so this is catching me completely off guard. I’ve been with 1 man only in the past year. I told him as soon as I found and I’m beyond scared that he’s going to leave me. He’s going to get tested ASAP. I’m so lost right now. I feel dirty. I have no desire to live life at the moment.
Has anyone tried using EFT to control the range of emotions involved with HSV? There is so much anger, guilt and confusion around this virus that the emotional aspect must be dealt with in order to effect the physical healing of the body. I have used it to get through horrible drs appointments and situations of great stress where I thought I would have to run from a crowded room in tears. It can be done very discreetly, if necessary, anywhere anytime. It is hard to heal a body that believes it should be punished for something beyond control. Ease the mind around the situation and the body can take over to heal.
You are the only person who knows what is in your mind even if you do not truly know what is causing the distress. Sometimes it is not what we think as the root can be much deeper and far in our past but we unknowingly carry it forward and pile more onto it so it grows out of manageable proportion. EFT requires you to talk to your self. There is a series of tapping spots that hit acupuncture points to trigger the body to release. The process requires you to admit the negative that has you upset/in pain, whatever the need, then follow with a positive confirmation to counteract. Keep talking to you, the words will flow as you get closer. When you say the right combination you will feel a remarkable lift and release. It may happen quickly or it may take as long as it takes depending on your need. Expect tears and lots of them if the root is deep and from an intense experience. Once you release the negative it is gone! If you start to slide back to negative thinking it is easy to correct before you get too low.
There are many sites on the internet showing the efficacy of this modality. It makes sense to stay ahead of the emotions that drain our system. When feelings get strong it is nice to know you have immediate access to a tool to help yourself. Not a cure so not a miracle just a way to manage real life yourself.
I know there are many who do not believe we can manage our selves but this is something I have proven to myself works and unless we share information how do we learn about these methods. I do not follow this site as much as I used to as I find myself getting prodrome symptoms when reading some posts or dwelling on HSV, which is something I do not do unless it is a result of something I have eaten so I need to understand the reaction. Mind body connection.
I am now going through NAET ( Allergy Elimination Technique) to allow myself to eat foods I used to be able to eat without reaction. I developed an autoimmune disease from either stress or genetics, hard to say because the drs told me there was nothing wrong with me. I have been living on the same 5 foods for almost a year because whatever I ate I would get a sacral OB. Why would vegetables do that? I used to be able to eat cheese 3 meals a day, now I can only tolerate fresh cheese every 3 days apart or within 20 mins I get a sacral OB. What sense does that make? The first treatment for base acids was nothing. Once we worked on a missing enzyme I had the most intense physical/mental reaction I have ever dealt with. I know something happened in me. This may be a long process for me or it may be down to the 3 enzymes that were identified as missing in me and once those are addressed I will be back to my old system. Since the drs could not help me I am helping myself. No, it is not free but I am worth investing in, even though I have HSV!!!! You will be amazed at what you can do for yourself!!!!
My husband cheated on me with a younger girl in 2015. Last year, he was diagnosed with HSV-2. Since we were married, and I loved him, I didn't care too much because I knew we'd always be together forever. Well now I'm uncertain. My husband is a recovering addict. And last March, when his dad passed, he relapsed. Which caused us to split momentarily and during that split he had sex with two different women, And entered into a short relationship with one of them. This hurt me badly, but he finally decided to get clean and has came back to work on our marriage. It was about two weeks ago that he came back, and we've had sex a few times (unprotected) since. I wasn't thinking ....
See, when he got with this other girl, she messaged me asking if he had anything. And I told her the truth that he had been diagnosed with HSV-2 and had been refusing to take his medication. He told her I was a liar and that the doctor was an idiot. That it was just a rash from improper hygiene. (I call bull crap because he's obsessed with hygiene)... I knew he wasn't using his medication. And I wasn't thinking of that... We had sex, unprotected...
Well a few days ago, we were having sex, and afterwards I felt some pain. (Keep in mind my vagina was completely normal before this sexual act.) After we were done, I went to the restroom, peed, and wiped. There was blood on the toilet paper. I freaked so I had him look... And we took a photo. It looked as if he had made two small tears in my inner labia bear my vagina.
So I chalked it up to he tore me and it would heal. Until it began getting increasingly more painful. And more lesions popped up. Along with a constant discharge from my vagina. It's so painful to pee that I CRY when I do. It's been about one week, and I have open ulcer like sores on my inner labia and now I'm getting raised blistery bumps everywhere else. Outer labia, inner thighs, butt cheeks and in my crack. It hurts like hell. It's super uncomfortable. And I feel nasty. I know I shouldn't. I know it's more normal than I think... But nobody should catch an STD from the person they've been with for 3 years.
I've emailed these photos to my doctor and am awaiting a reply ... Please tell me if you believe as I do, that this is Herpes.....
So, like, having herp is hugely depressing in the fact that noone around me IRL can offer anything other than saying "it's just a skin condition". They don't know how it feels to constantly be rejected and dismissed as something unclean and undesirable. I thought I'd met someone who was different, but of course he left as well (and I don't even know if that's just because I'm not an attractive person or whether it was herp, or a combination of both).
My depression is super high right now in the sense that I want to 'exit' life.. I don't know how much (if any) of that kind of discussion is allowed on here so I'll leave that sentence there. I just feel like there's no hope.
I'm also stuck in an unenjoyable job with hours which mean I either don't have time to go out to socialise or I'm too tired by the time I'm free.
Life feels really pointless and I'm at a loss as to who/what to turn to for support. I have no reason to enjoy breathing.
I don't know what I'm asking for by writing this post but maybe being acknowledged might help.
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