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Herpes & Its Impact On My Life

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bdiaz2

Hello Honeycomb members,

I've recently signed up to the website in order to obtain further updates on the vaccine called Theravax.

I was diagnosed with HSV-1 and HSV-2 in the summer of 2015, and it has severely impacted on my emotions towards relationships. In the past, when I had the desire to date and go out with people I'm attracted to, I couldn't help but combat my inner struggle whether I would end up infecting this person or not. Ultimately, I kept this to myself, and anyone who had asked me out, I kindly said no to them, without ever uttering why.

I told my partner about my diagnosis in the summer of 2015 and we both grew concerned about the matter. Eventually, we left it that it was virtually no problem for us. We have recently had the chance to attempt sexual intercourse, and it was a great experience for both us. Soon after, however, she began experiencing itchiness and discomfort in her genitals, with a partially swollen labia minora, vaginal discharge, and three areas where occasionally blood would expel: the clitoris, and two areas on the skin around her vagina.

Now I cannot live with myself. She has been worried sick about the situation and will be visiting the doctor tomorrow.

Every day, I struggle to keep this relationship together with her---I keep bashing myself in the head, thinking I should have stopped myself in engaging sexual intercourse with her. It hurts, upsets, and saddens me to see her in great pain, knowing that I may be the possible catalyst for her suffering. I don't know how to feel about myself---I love her dearly, but I don't know what to do for her. I care about her health and I am not sure how to express that. I don't know how to be there for her.

Any kind words, advice, or further comments are much appreciated. As much as I like to be in my masculinity, at times, I just want to be human.

Thank you for your understanding.

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WilsoInAus

How we're you diagnosed? Was it a blood test? How often do you get genital outbreaks?

it is far from clear what is going on for your partner, I'm sure she will learn more at the doctors, there's a variety of things it could be.

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bdiaz2

The diagnosis was provided via a blood test and I have not had a single genital outbreak. My last cold sores were back in 2009-2010.

God, I hope she gets better and I keep praying for a cure every single day.

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WilsoInAus

I think therefore it is important to get the test results in full.

You are looking as to whether it was an IgM or IgG test and the numerical results separately for HSV-1 and HSV-2.

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