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scaredat46

Hi everyone, 

I'm polling a little here... I contacted GHSV1 a little under a year ago and naturally the fear of dating possibilities has weighed heavy on me. The guy i was with while i had my initial breakout got tested and per his admission the results were negative. I didn't press for more because i had no reason to not believe him. He stayed with me in the relationship and as we took precaution it seemed like a normal relationship. We ended the relationship a few months later , he pulled away still unsure if it was related to my disease. My question is now single for the past 5-6 months i've pondered the idea of getting back out there a little but i'm afraid and wanted some feedback on anyone who has been where i am or care to share their dating experience in or out of the positive community.... thanks for listening :)

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Lisajd

You will find you will get different responses as evrryones situation is different. what I would say to you is get out there and date and don't make assumptions that you will be rejected because you don't know another persons status or how they view it.  I am 50 and have had HSV for 2 years and I have dated and no one had a problem with it.  I find it is about education and how well people understand the virus and the risks.  

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scaredat46

Thank you @Lisajd for the response. It's so new to me and while my ex boyfriends response wasn't typical. I'm fully aware that rejection will sometimes come with the territory. I'm simply afraid it can be a very lonely place. I'm still coming to terms with the life changing events. Perhaps i'm not even ready to go out and put myself in a situation where it will magnify my skin issue. Your input has given me a little confidence.

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Lisajd

I dont see it as a huge life changer.  Its sometimes the assumptions you make as opposed to reality. Remembering how common it is is important. I view rejection as their loss and they will prob end up with it anyway

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