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Can anyone offer some support or insight in regards to dating with herpes?

I'm going a bit crazy inside my own head thinking my dating life is over. At times I feel okay about and think that if the person really likes me, they'll see past my condition. But right now I'm feeling really pessismistic and just want to know whether at 20,  I can lead a relatively normal dating life? 

Sorry for the rant 

- Isabel x

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Lisajd

There is a section called secret of my success.  In terms of dating everyone is different.  Remember though its a two way street.  You need to know their status too.  Date as normal and then talk about cold sores and testing.  As an older person i say enjoy life.  Worry about men later

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WilsoInAus

I also think there does need to be some observation of the Australian culture here. Similar to most countries the medical/sexual healthy view is that disclosure is not required on the basis that this is a human vicissitude. In practice, disclosure will typically not occur until a relationship moves to that 'next level' a few months in and/or when moving to unprotected sex for example.

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hello96

 

2 hours ago, Lisajd said:

There is a section called secret of my success.  In terms of dating everyone is different.  Remember though its a two way street.  You need to know their status too.  Date as normal and then talk about cold sores and testing.  As an older person i say enjoy life.  Worry about men later

Thanks for your reply. I can't seem to find the section 'secret of my success' - it sounds like something I'd really like to read haha.

2 hours ago, WilsoInAus said:

I also think there does need to be some observation of the Australian culture here. Similar to most countries the medical/sexual healthy view is that disclosure is not required on the basis that this is a human vicissitude. In practice, disclosure will typically not occur until a relationship moves to that 'next level' a few months in and/or when moving to unprotected sex for example.

Do you mean that people don't feel it's necessary to disclose or be honest about their sexual health status here in Aus?

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WilsoInAus

Well it is more to do with what is HSV-2 and how does it differ from HSV-1, how does it differ from EBV, CMV or the common cold? What can any of us really do about it beyond condoms and maybe antivirals, should more be expected? 

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RayLynne

I met my bf of 2 1/2 yrs after being diagnosed(i was 18). I told him i had HSV2 on our third date. He was shocked and kind of taken aback but i had all the facts ready to answer any questions he had. He eventually understood the stigma around HSV is way worse than what it actually is and we have been together ever since. He is still HSV2 negative. Having a healthy sex life and having healthy relationships are still very possible. My bestfriend and i joke all the time that having HSV2 just makes it easier to weed out all of the jerks and shallow men!

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