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Is there anybody here who doesn't have herpes, but who has a partner that has been diagnosed? Would really like to talk to someone on the other side. Then maybe I can understand how my partner is feeling? I was never told so I don't know what's it's like to hear it and make that decision. I disclosed to the guy I'm dating and whilst I know he's trying not to bring it up, he's really worried. I don't know what to say to reassure him that it's still manageable having a relationship with someone with the virus. We had so much chemistry and instantly clicked in the early stages but now that I've told him I feel like I'm going to lose him. 

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