Jump to content
World's Largest Herpes Support Group

Newly diagnosed, disclosing after the fact

Recommended Posts


Hi everyone!

I was just diagnosed with HSV2 this week after my routine annual appointment. I have not had the bloodwork done for various STIs in years as I have not had any new partners in a long time. So I am just now getting over the shock of my new condition. I am not sure if I have had an outbreak before. I recall getting what I thought was a really bad yeast infection about a year ago, and my doctor is wondering if that was an actual OB.

Anyway, my question is about telling someone I have already had sex with. I met him a month ago while traveling out of state. We had sex one time and used protection. We have been talking constantly and I go to visit him next week. Any advice on how to tell someone who I have already had sex with that I have HSV, but didn't know it? I feel beyond horrible about having to tell him this, I don't want him to think I deceived him when we first met. :|

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Please do not worry too much about the circumstances of finding out. Remember over 80% of people have no idea they have HSV-2. There is no need for you to be apologetic etc. It may well be that he has had something to disclose as well.

It is possible that the yeast infection was an outbreak, this often occurs that people put an outbreak down to a yeast or bacterial infection (and vice versa).

I always get a little bit worried with HSV testing at an annual checkup. I think it would be best if you first got exact details of the test you had and the results. Can you get a printout of that? 

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

isn't it possible you got it from him? I think it takes a while for antibodies to show up but this virus has a unique response in each person from what I'm told. so maybe be gentle and non accusatory and just say you have no idea where it came from, it's possible u contracted it from him but u don't know? 

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Just be honest.  Explain it as it is.  As you have done here.  Out of your control as you did not know.

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now


Try a Lysine supplement for cold sores

  • The Hive is Thriving!

    • Total Topics
    • Total Posts
  • Posts


Important Information

We have placed cookies on your device to help make this website better. You can adjust your cookie settings, otherwise we'll assume you're okay to continue.