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Ive been married almost 5 years and together with my husband for 8. I found out about a year ago, 6 months after having a baby that i had hsv-1 on my booty (which is odd because there is no anal going on)... was told by my doc that it is very unlikely that i had this going into the relationship and not have some symptoms previously no cold sores on my mouth nothing until i started getting my 1st breakout i thought it was an ingrown hair but then i had a breakout once to twice a month for the next year. Ive done some research online and it says you normally get the 1st breakout within 10 to 14 days within being infected, which would mean my husband cheated...ive asked him and of course he denies denies but he has yet to get tested himself while when i found out i wanted to be tested for everything! any thoughts on this dilemma :confused:

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Unfortunately, it's so hard to determine when you got it and how long you've had it. Your doctor is right -- the most probable time for you to have caught it is just before your first outbreak. However, it's possible you caught it many many years ago, and it just popped up for whatever reason (added stress, hormone/body changes from having your baby, lack of sleep, nutritional changes, etc). I don't think you can COUNT on your hubby having cheated, but you can't necessarily rule it out either.

However, if i were you i'd be on his ass CONSTANTLY about getting tested. For one thing, it's important that you take steps to protect him from getting it if he's negative. If he's positive, you'll BOTH need to take steps to protect your child (there's not much chance of transmission, but it's a consideration in my mind anyway). He needs to get tested like YESTERDAY!

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