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Newtothisandscared

Hi Everyone, 

       I have an odd question/thought that I wanted to share. I acquired GHSV1 from my boyfriend. We are in a monogamous relationship and I love him but sometimes I wonder if anyone has it tucked in the back of their heads, as I guess I think about it sometimes, would this ever make me less likely to ever leave him if things fell apart in some way. I am strong, independent, etc. but I worry that finding someone who accepts me with HSV would ever be likely if we ever broke up. It wouldn't prevent me from moving forward if need be, but it is a thought that is tucked in the back of my mind.....

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Aalia

Yes it will be hard to find someone to accept,n yes this situation will make you more attached n fearful of him leaving

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Newtothisandscared

Thank you, Aalia, I do agree now, but I hope if things ever turn sour, that I will have the ability to move forward for my own sake :). 

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Anglique

Well we still humans and herpes dont make us less than others and remamber we didnt come to this world with herpes we was also herpes free once but some of us had bad luck and get this fucked up Dessies and at the end of the day all people today have herpes they just dont know unlike us.

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WilsoInAus

I would have a different perspective on this. By the time you're 30 odd, herpes is simply an inbuilt factor of the dating scene.

Amongst single, available women, it would be 50% incidence (HSV-1, HSV-2 combined).

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Lisajd

No this is not true.  Hsv1g is less likely to transmit to someone than ghsv2.   If a person has an oral hsv infection its highly unlikely they will get it. You should not stay with someone through fear of being alone.  I have ghsv2.  I dumped a guy who accepted me cause i wasnt happy.  Staying with him because he accepted me never crossed my mind.  @Aalia on what basis do you think it will be hard with ghsv1 to find someone?

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Newtothisandscared

I truly appreciate everyone's input. I am happy with my relationship now, but I understand and human and know that things may change some day. I was a rare bird, in my 40's and without hsv. I hope to never let my fear of acceptance control me, but I definitely think about it. I have read with ghsv1 that it is controversial in terms of even the need to reveal it to a new partner. I, however, believe in honesty and would make the other person fully aware. 

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Blahdittilyblah

I encourage you to really evaluate your circumstances. If you love each other then by all means continue but don't let herpes keep you there. I've been in a situation like that before with my gifter and it's not pleasing to the heart if your there just because of herpes. Would I consider a relationship with my gifter again idk and the only reason I say idk is because of the fear to tell anyone else. But always keep in mind your heart will tell you when, where, how, why when it's that time. If everything is good now enjoy the ride and let the love flow don't worry about the what if's in life because a what if only leads to another what if. 

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