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Headshoulderskneesandtoes

I have ghsv1 and I have recently told the guy who I have been dating simply that I had cold sores "down there" before we started anything sexual. He was totally cool with it and said he occasionally gets oral cold sores. We haven't ever used any protection for oral or sex and today I noticed a white head in the corner or his mouth, which I assume is a cold sore....? (I'm not too familiar with what oral cold sores look like)Could he have gotten that from me? Or could I have triggered him? Or just a coincidence??

Also, we got snocones today and he is very close with my 3 year old and asked to taste her snocone and bit off her spoon but didn't really put his lips on it... will my 3yo be ok??

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WilsoInAus

It is very likely that you and your partner both have HSV-1! This is a great combination that you should be both very cool with. There is no pragmatic need for protection and you cannot induce an outbreak in each other - they will happen for independent reasons.

What you describe isn't clear as to whether it is a cold sore. If it is holding white pus then not likely at all to be related to herpes. 

Not that it matters much in terms of the snow-cone issue. The virus cannot pragmatically transfer in sufficient quantities or live long enough or be rubbed in toward a nerve ending from the act you describe.

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Lisajd

He has ohsv1 and you have ghsv1.  He cant get oral hsv1 again.  You are all good

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Headshoulderskneesandtoes
6 hours ago, Lisajd said:

He has ohsv1 and you have ghsv1.  He cant get oral hsv1 again.  You are all good

So could I get ohsv1 and he catch ghsv1 or no? If I have ghsv1 and he has ohsv1

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MoniqueLow
1 hour ago, Headshoulderskneesandtoes said:

Bump??^

Some people here would tell you reinfection is almost impossible, but it is. I'm one of the examples. I have had ohsv 1 since childhood, but I still have contracted ghsv 1 (sadly). So yes, you can infect each other. I know why you ask here because there's no statistics on it. Me personally I hope it's much harder for man to get ghsv 1 through genital sex (usually it's via oral) and if he has already ohsv, he should be fine, but you can get ohsv 1.

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WilsoInAus

This is incorrect and there is no documented case of a male becoming infected genitally with an established oral infection.

Let's keep it real guys!

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Lisajd

Because of this ongoing debate I ask someone else you have a lot of knowledge in the area and she said that it is possible but it is very unlikely.   If you already have an established oral infection then you have that DNA Ie hsv1) already in your body so the risk of getting it on your genitals is unlikely.  

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Cas9
1 minute ago, Lisajd said:

Because of this ongoing debate I ask someone else you have a lot of knowledge in the area and she said that it is possible but it is very unlikely.   If you already have an established oral infection then you have that DNA Ie hsv1) already in your body so the risk of getting it on your genitals is unlikely.  

Yes, unlikely, but absolutely possible.

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WilsoInAus
9 minutes ago, Cas9 said:

Yes, unlikely, but absolutely possible.

That doesn't say anything.

It is also possible the planet will be hit by an asteroid today and obliterated.

Imagine what we can imagine is possible.

The odds would be what 1 in 100 million for reinfection? 

Let's keep it real guys.

Moderators how on earth did this thread become hijacked on the subject of reinfection... of yeah, that's right!

 

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Lisajd

Here is a link to something infound helpful

Www.healthassist.net/conditions/herpes.shtml

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Cas9
3 minutes ago, WilsoInAus said:

That doesn't say anything.

It is also possible the planet will be hit by an asteroid today and obliterated.

Imagine what we can imagine is possible.

The odds would be what 1 in 100 million for reinfection? 

Let's keep it real guys.

Moderators how on earth did this thread become hijacked on the subject of reinfection... of yeah, that's right!

 

You're still wrong. Just like you were last week, last month, last year.....

If you want to keep it real, then stop making ridiculous comments like it's  1 in 100 million. Wilson, you need to let go of your ego and accept when you are wrong.

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WilsoInAus
1 minute ago, Cas9 said:

You're still wrong. Just like you were last week, last month, last year.....

If you want to keep it real, then stop making ridiculous comments like it's  1 in 100 million. Wilson, you need to let go of your ego and accept when you are wrong.

I am not wrong, can you please provide even the vaguest of information that suggests it is other than 1 in 100 million?

This has nothing to do with ego, this is about reality.

You can believe anything you want, but people deserve the facts, the truth, the reality. 

Your views are just a belief, it doesn't make it real. 

How is this helping the OP?

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LillianPanos

please send name of site nothing comes up with that..

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Lisajd

Wilson moderators arent looking every single minute.  If this thread goes pear shaped it will be locked.  ..... again

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MoniqueLow

From discussion on Josh Blooms website

http://www.acsh.org/news/2017/01/07/americans-may-have-access-herpes-vaccine-after-all-10697

member Chris writes:

"Pepper, you are not alone. Many of us have similar stories and feelings. I contracted oral herpes when I was 20, presumable from kissing someone. 10 years later, I transmitted it to my fiance (now wife) one weekend by oral sex - so she now has genital herpes. Three years later, I developed genital herpes as well. I race bicycles, and because of long hours training, and sitting in the virus, I managed to autoinfect my rectum. I have also developed nasal herpes..."

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Cas9
Just now, WilsoInAus said:

I am not wrong, can you please provide even the vaguest of information that suggests it is other than 1 in 100 million?

This has nothing to do with ego, this is about reality.

You can believe anything you want, but people deserve the facts, the truth, the reality. 

Your views are just a belief, it doesn't make it real. 

How is this helping the OP?

Wilson, it was you who said it was 1 out of 100 million. Now show us your multiple sources where it says it is 1 out of 100 million. Just because you say it doesn't make it real.

BYW, I was quite willing to not argue with you about this again. As you noticed, when you made your earlier comment, I didn't rebutt you directly. Instead, I expressed my opinion by acknowledging Lisa's comment. Or, I could have addressed my comment to anyone else. You and I are at odds on this topic, and you know that. So why are you arguing with me again Wilson?

I prefer to stop this back and forth on this topic. Yet you once again, you start directly arguing with me. Furthermore, this thread is not about reinfection.

 

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WilsoInAus

Yes I know all that; I know this thread is not about reinfection. 

Why did you attempt to continue the issue once I addressed it with a small piece of objectivity and fact, sans opinion?

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Cas9
2 minutes ago, WilsoInAus said:

How's that fair to the OP?

Please address the core issue of people dropping into threads to talk about their own insecurities and fantasies instead of actually showing care and concern for others.

You are out of line Wilson. Don't you EVER make a comment like that again.

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WilsoInAus

The comment is entirely fair and correct and it is entirely appropriate and essential that it be made.

We need to be true to the principles and values of the website and has the freedom to express their opinions and allow others to express counter opinions.

It is your duty to uphold this and not try and silence people.

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Cas9
Just now, WilsoInAus said:

The comment is entirely fair and correct and it is entirely appropriate and essential that it be made.

We need to be true to the principles and values of the website and has the freedom to express their opinions and allow others to express counter opinions.

It is your duty to uphold this and not try and silence people.

Yes Wilson, anyone who disagrees with you apparently lacks care and concern for others. You couldn't possibly be wrong. It's all about you Wilson, it's all about you.

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MoniqueLow

I have posted that comment to show you can be reinfected by your own hsv. Wilson, go ahead and write that Chris, he doesn't exist.

There's no statistics on hsv infections, so there's no right or wrong. I would not know about Chris (and others) if they don't write their story on internet. Many don't write though or speak different language than English...

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WilsoInAus

I think readers of the forum can form their own views ;)

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