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RayLynne

Hi everyone! Im new to online forums in general. I was diagnosed almost 3 years ago, my freshman year of college, after being sexually assaulted by someone I considered and friend. Previously before that, I had been saving myself for marriage. It took me a long time to accept what had happen to me. I was in so much denial that I had been raped that I even went back to that guy to tell him that he had given me herpes 2 and to tell him that it was okay. I am very open with the fact that I have herpes because i want to help the stigma around it even if I am just educating the people around me. i wanted to join bc obviously i still have some days where I feel worthless and hopeless and bc I want to help every person I can deal with this better than I did. 

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Aalia

I am so sorry that you were raped ,and the emotions that comes with this we always need someone to talk to 

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fixme1

sorry to hear, everyone here is here to support you on your days you feel abit put down. welcome to honeycomb!

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Lisajd

I'm glad to see that whilst you went through such a horrible time that you are doing something about breaking down the stigma and educating people your age that is a great thing good for you

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~1234~

I think you're really amazing for being open, I hope I can be that brave some day or be cured lol kinda prefer the latter but honestly not only what happened to you and to be so positive you are truly special. I hope this forum helps! 

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How do people respond when you tell them ?  It great you are so open,There is a story on the net from a woman who just tells everybody  whenever she has a chance and is just our to everybody..

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6 hours ago, Nightmare7575 said:

How do people respond when you tell them ?  It great you are so open,There is a story on the net from a woman who just tells everybody  whenever she has a chance and is just our to everybody..

Well at first I only told my friends and family and they were more focused on the fact that i was sexually assaulted and less on the fact that I had gotten HSV2. They cared more about how I felt about it than the stigma around it. It also helped that I researched it a ton before telling them so i could answer any questions they had. Telling my BF when when we first started talking was really hard for me. I was afraid he would judge me and not want me in his life but he surprised me by asking me out on another date after he had time to research it. We have been together for over two years now and he is still HSV2 negative. As far as telling other people it started in a class in college. Everyone was making herpes jokes and all I could think about was how misinformed they were. I'm kind of hot headed so I couldn't help but speak out and educate them about how what they thought about herpes isn't true. They surprised me as well! Everyone was way more curious than disgusted like I thought they would be. They politely asked questions and we spend the class hour talking about the truth vs the stigma. Non of them ever acted like they were afraid to touch me or tried to keep their distance like I was terrified they would. Obviously there is a time and a place to tell people. For example I don't tell people at work because I am a cosmetologist and the stigma around it could ruin my career but many people who do know still go to me for services because they are well educated now.

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Nightmare7575
  1. Thanks for sharing. You are a very strong person. 

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