I am almost 28 and I’ve now had genital herpes for more than half my life. My partner has never experienced symptoms of herpes.
I have periods when I seem to have herpes weekly, despite taking antivirals fairly regularly. I do struggle to remember to take 4/5 tablets a day a lot of the time, but tend to take a minimum of 2. This is also compounded by seemingly having recurring thrush.
I am very protective over the health of my partner and won’t have sex if I feel as much as a slight tingle. The problem is that we go through periods of months not having sex. I feel so guilty and often wonder if he’ll ever leave me in order to have a normal sexual relationship, though he has always been amazingly understanding of my situation.
I’m just so isolated with this sometimes. I try not to talk about it too much with my partner as I don’t want to scare him as I can’t fully protect him from the virus. I don’t understand why I have outbreaks so regularly when I have excellent overall health. I never feel totally safe to have sex and I sometimes feel like I should leave my boyfriend to allow him to find someone he can have a healthy sexual relationship with.
Does anyone else have very frequent outbreaks? Thrush? Insane guilt and worry? Have you found anything that helps?
Thank you so much for reading.
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As I stated in an earlier post, I was given my diagnosis For Genital Herpes about a week ago. My doctor is doing a retest for me just to be sure. Today is not a good day because my body just feels out of wack. I really just want to go get in my bed!!! I have a dilemma that I'm trying to make a decision about. There is a man that I was in a 10 years relationship with and we've lived apart (in two different states) for three years now but he said I'm the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with. I know he loves me and I love him and he thinks very highly of me. He has no idea about my diagnosis and whenever we talk now, I act like everything with me is just fine but I feel I need to tell him but I feel it will change everything. I'm thinking about moving back to the state he's in and I'm trying to decide if I should let him know or wait until the move? Help me figure out the right thing to do!!!
I caught herpes from my husband. He cheated on me about three months after we'd been married. We had gotten into an argument, he left and we ceased contact for a day... And he had sex with a younger chick.
His symptoms from that didn't actually pop up until last year. And we've been married since 2015. When he was diagnosed. He was in denial... And he's cheated again too.
When I was just diagnosed, he is now angry with me... Because I let the two women with whom he'd recently slept with, know I'd tested positive and it was from him. He's angry with me. But I believe I did the right thing ...
Apparently it got around to his friends who are now making fun of him. So he's denied it and said I'm crazy. Do I have a right to be upset!?
Hi! Recently a guy that I had just started dating got an outbreak and found out that he has herpes. We had been dating for a little less than a month and everything was great, I was really falling for him until he found out that he had herpes and decided to stop dating me. To give more context, we had sex before he found out, but after his diagnosis I took a test and came up negative, so neither of us passed it to the other. Anyway, he said that he was too depressed and shocked with the news to even think about getting in a relationship or keep dating me. I got very upset because at no point I had said I didn't want to date him because he had herpes, in fact I tried to be as supportive as I could and told him that I'd be happy to keep getting to know him and see where things go. So I'm very confused right now because I feel like maybe he was not sure about me or he was not very interested. But at the same time, I don't have herpes and I don't know how I would feel in his situation, so was trying to get your opinions, is it really possible to be so depressed with the news that you want to avoid contact with someone you were dating? do you think is true that he is very depressed? And is there anything I could do or just let him come back when he has accepted the news a bit better (he found out about a month ago)?