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Donnie

Any H women here with Non H partner?

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Donnie

Hi everyone,

ive been infected for almost a year now and I have been dating a guy for about five months now. We have been intimate a few times but not all the way. I told him I wanted to wait until I knew that we would be long term. STDs came up once way later and he specifically mentioned herpes saying that at his age if he ever got something like that he would hate himself and talked about how bad it is and incurable, etc. This left me absolutely devastated. I know I need to disclose soon but am I just asking for embarrassment? He seems to have shown his opinion already- do I even bother? I care about him a lot and for how much he claims to care about me I WANT to believe that he would accept it but the way he reacted just by talking about the subject really worries me. Any thoughts ?

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ManagingIllness

If you can live with yourself if you don't tell him and he gets it, then do whatever you want. Coming from your other "Is it too late to sue?" post, I'm assuming you would want him to tell you if it was the other way around.

Irrespective of how things work out with him, new pharmaceuticals (pritelivir) are past phase II testing at the moment, that are twice as effective at lowering shedding than the current standard drugs. Pritelivir has also been FDA fast-tracked, and should be out in 2-3 years.  

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Lisajd

You have blown trust by not disclosing anyway.  Trust is important in a relationship. Have you had skin to skin genital contact

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