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Hello. It's been a month since I was diagnosed with genital herpes. I was in a long distance relationship and ended up having to break up with my bf because after I found out her started treating me horribly. Everytime I would try to talk about it he would ignore me, we were planning to be married so this has been hard on me. I believe he had it without knowing and passed it on to me and felt guilty. He never confirmed and never went to the doctor. My heart is still so broken, I feel disgusting and still in shock over what has happened. Im trying so hard to do things that make me happy but the depression and anxiety always find their way back to me. I'm not dating nor do I want to at the moment.. but I don't even know how to talk to someone about this if I did want to date someone. To make matters worse, he's still on my phone plan and will be until he pay a down payment to get his own account. He tried to have me stuck with the bill of 600 dollars so I threatened to take him to court. He text me today saying he still doesn't have the money for the down payment so I told him he had next month and that's it. I hate that I have to still deal with him. I hate what he has done to me. I don't want to hurt anymore.

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I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's bad enough getting infected but dealing with a giver who is in denial or who ignores you makes it much worse. He knows he had it and he knows he infected you so he feels like PoS which is why he's ignoring you. Making him an even bigger PoS. If he didn't know he would be open to testing himself. 

Stay strong and don't let him scam you with the phone plan. Give yourself time to grieve the end of the relationship. Try not to stress about it too much. 

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It sounds to me like he's not a very genuine person and you are better off without him so put it into perspective about how he's behaved and then your heart won't feel as broken and he's never going to pay you that money so just ditch the phone plan or whatever you need to do and get him out of your life.  Some people who will just take advantage and manipulate you and I'm in that situation at the moment and it's really difficult so you need to cut it off as soon as possible.  Desert having herpes just give yourself time and that's all it takes and as you said just keep doing things to keep your mind off it because in the end of the day you can still have other relationships with someone who actually is decent about it

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