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I just found out this week that I have HSV antibodies, and I just can't cope with it. I confronted the person I had been intimate with and he was so apologetic and pretended like he didn't know. I found out from someone that works with him that he had infected someone else at the job and his wife divorced him a couple years ago because he infected her. I been with this guy for a year and he did not tell me this at all. He did not give me the choice to say yes or no about this condition. I am so hurt, and I am having a hard time with it. I am just laying in my bed and do not want to get out. I understand this has happened to other and I an needing someone to talk to. Please help

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My heart goes out to you...:(. I am so sorry to hear this. Did you have an outbreak..is that why/how you found out?

I would have him take a test too...then it will show that he's had it for a long time.....knowing me though..I'd confront him about the other information that you have....

It's one thing to not know you have it..(like me)..and pass it on to someone..I feel HORRIBLE about passing it to my bf not even having a cold-sore on my mouth at the time..but to KNOW you have it, and to not tell someone is another story..................apparantly, he did not learn any lessons from his past experiences of infecting people.........:(

Just wanted you to know I was thinking about you and am very sorry for the situation you are in..........

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I'm so sorry you are going through this and I know exactly how you feel. I may not be the best one here for support because I'm still trying to cope with this myself. I asked the guy who infected me if he had any std's I could catch and he flat out said "no, never have". I don't believe he DIDN'T know and I am so angry he couldn't be honest with me. There are some wonderful people here that are willing to lend an ear and just be here for you. Unfortunately it looks like most of them are enjoying the weekend right now. I hope you and I can reach that point soon because this feeling really sucks! I am sending you a PM, if a shoulder to cry on helps, let me know.

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In the simplest words, I feel what you have written... that there was no choice in your situation. Your trust has been violated. I know that feeling from my girlfriend who did not know she had herpes: reason being that she cheated on me within 12 days of moving into an apartment together from a month and a half apart. Trying to make the relationship work, and trying SO hard to not give up has taken its toll. Two outbreaks and two and a half months later, I am moving out of the apartment, and from her. Like you, I did not have a choice. Like you, I have felt that betrayal.

Please, read what everyone writes over and over again, and know that you are not alone, and can be feel happiness again. You are not alone... we are here to help you.

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