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PLEASE READ!! NEED ADVICE!!! I think I have herpes but the doctor says I have nothing to worry about!! I dated a guy for 2 years, we broke up and he had sex with a girl, who had sex with a guy, who has sex with a girl that 100% has herpes. Although I'm not sure, I believe the virus had been transmitted to all of the people involved. After my ex had sex with the girl who potentially has herpes, I slept with him (this may have been close to a month after they had sex). When I had sex with him after he slept with her, it was unprotected and I had noticed a small sore on his penis that was bleeding after we had sex. He insisted it was nothing to worry about that he thought it was a pimple... He had also lied to me (which I found out later) and said he got tested after her and that his results came back clean so i thought I had nothing to worry about. A couple months passed and I had no symptoms and I even got checked for herpes and my blood test came back negative for both types of herpes. I was so relieved. I assumed he was clean so a couple months after my test I had sex with him again, this time we used a condom. 4 days after we had sex (with the condom) I noticed an intense burning sensation and a tear on my labia above my clitoris (clitoris hood). The sore itself wasn't painful to touch but the burning sensation continued. I have been emotionally exhausted having anxiety over if I have it or if I don't, eventually I went to my gyno and they did a full exam and a culture on a swab from the sore above my clitoris, all the results came back NEGATIVE! I thought I'd be relieved but the doctor couldn't give any explanation for the burning that was always there... Still paranoid, I was trying to find the source to my pain and took a flash video of my vagina trying to see if there's anything that they could've missed. After watching the video I noticed a red patch with fluid filled "bubbles"/pimple looking-blisters right before my vagina hole that hurt to the touch. The doctor is making me feel like I'm crazy- she's telling me I don't need to come back in. But part of me feels like she didn't take a deep enough look and that the sore she did swab-had nothing to do with my outbreak. I'm so suicidal and my self esteem is at an ALL TIME LOW, I just want to know if I didn't get herpes the first time we had unprotected sex is a good indicator that he's clean or if I still have a good chance of having it even after all the tests and the use of a condom? I physically feel sick from my anxiety and I simply can't focus on anything else but the possibility of me having herpes. I don't know what to do or what to think. Please help me, I don't know how much longer I can deal with the pain.

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On 21/11/2017 at 5:16 AM, breakingdown said:

I physically feel sick from my anxiety and I simply can't focus on anything else but the possibility of me having herpes. I don't know what to do or what to think. Please help me, I don't know how much longer I can deal with the pain.

Just take it easy. If you have herpes it is for life, but so it is CMV, Epstein Barr, Varicella Zoster, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it, except taking antivirals to reduce the symptoms. Would you be suicidal if you had shingles

Take another blood test in a couple of months, blood tests can turn out negative in the first 3 months after infection so you could have gotten it 2 months ago. If you got it now, it is a good omen you had such a mild primary OB.

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If you still have the 'blister patch' you described go to either Planned Parenthood or a walk in clinic and ask for a Herpes swab. That will clear up this issue pretty quickly. 

I will say that so far your test results definitely lean more towards other sources for the discomfort. But until you get these blisters you are talking about swabbed it's a bit vague.

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