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Hi, I've been newly diagnosed, still waiting on the swab cultures to come back as to what type. I am taking valacyclovir 1gm twice a day. I came down with strep that I caught from taking care of my daughter. I thought I had a bad yeast infection prior to this and when the strep started, so did these little ulcers. Just one on each labia. Man, did they burn when I had to pee. What the heck, never had anything like that before. Must have been from the yeast infection, maybe the skin is raw? My throat was swelling to the point I couldn't swallow my saliva, I started getting high fevers, flu like symptoms, terrible lower back aches. I was miserable. The doctors gave me penicillin, z-pack, and a steroid... 

yeah, a steroid. I didn't know at the time.

I still wasn't better the next few days (turns out I had strep pneumonia) and they put me on another antibiotic which I attributed all the funk in my junk was due to these antibiotics. Well, when the steroids finally got full into my system I woke up with a horrendous mess downstairs. I knew this was more than a yeast infection gone bad. I made an appointment with what voice I could muster through the swollen, painful throat and asked for a female MD. She was concerned about my throat and wanted me to go to the ER after the appointment was over and make sure I didn't have an abscess in my tonsils. Cool. 

When she got the tools and took a look, I asked the dreaded question, "is it herpes?"

"yes. I am so sorry, but I think it is. We have to swab the sores and this will only hurt a little. I will have to see if there are any internal sores as well." 


I am unsure at that point if my tears were more from the pain of the speculum and swabs or the realization that I was just told I have a disease that has a huge amount of stigma and a life long sentence. Her next sentence killed me, "you could be pregnant, your immune system has to be really low for you to have such a terrible outbreak with your throat, I am concerned." I have an IUD.... negative test. Whew. 

I couldn't stop crying. I felt such a surge of emotions. The doctor tried to comfort me but honestly I wasn't hearing any of it. I just wanted to die. 

As a medical staff member of the emergency room, there was no way I was going to get my throat checked after this in the ED. NO FREAKING WAY. If my coworkers read this and saw the medication, they'd know. Everyone would know. I wasn't ready to walk around with a red letter attached to my chest yet. Nope. I would rather die at home. Thanks. 

I didn't die, although, this is so painful, I wish I would have at times. Emotionally and physically painful. 

First person I told was my significant other whom I have only been dating 4 months now. Then I told my best friend. That was it. Both were reassuring and supportive. I am lucky. When I finally got the strength to tell my past partners, only a few which makes this suck worse, they all took it respectfully and were thankful that I was honest with them. I was surprised. I thought I would get so much backlash, or name calling. One even offered to come over and comfort me... so weird. Not what I expected at all. 

The first few nights on valacyclovir I experienced itching on my torso, pain everywhere, sweating like crazy. Then after a few days, weakness, depression, dizziness, I lost a few days, missed 6 days of work. My regimen was to sleep, pee basically doing a handstand, cry and wince from attempting to wipe, give up, shower it off, soak in the tub, air dry or use the blow dryer to keep the area clean, sleep more. Cry. Repeat. Now I feel as if I have lost some of the fine motor function in my lower right face. My smile is crooked, I taste metal, everything smells or tastes funny. I don't want to stop the medication, I want this to go back and hide in my spine. 

My throat swelling is finally going down, and most of my sores are healing now. There are a few that are still so painful I am afraid to go back to work just yet. I can't hop in a shower after I use the restroom, or soak in epsom salt to keep bacteria at bay. What do I do? 

I am super weak, I can hardly walk far without getting winded. I feel like I'm 90 and I'm only in my 30's. 

Anyways, I needed to vent somewhere, to someone who understood what I am going through. If you have any advice, anything helpful at all, I am all ears and welcome it.

Thank you for listening to my first outbreak. The worst outbreak, right?

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Sounds like you got caught between a couple infections causing what should be the worst outbreak to be even more so.  Add in steroids and it was a perfect storm. 

Sounds like you are healing and I would recommend staying on the antivirals at a suppressive dose.  This will hopefully minimize any recurrences while you pick yourself back up again over the next couple months.  

Depending on the type will give you some additional knowledge about the potential for recurrences.  

You can take ibuprofen and Tylenol alternating every  3 hours.  This can help a lot with swelling and pain.  


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3 hours ago, Scooby2112 said:

Sounds like you got caught between a couple infections causing what should be the worst outbreak to be even more so.  Add in steroids and it was a perfect storm. 

Sounds like you are healing and I would recommend staying on the antivirals at a suppressive dose.  This will hopefully minimize any recurrences while you pick yourself back up again over the next couple months.  

Depending on the type will give you some additional knowledge about the potential for recurrences.  

You can take ibuprofen and Tylenol alternating every  3 hours.  This can help a lot with swelling and pain.  


Thank you so much! I should have the results tomorrow when the holiday is over. 

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11 minutes ago, Newtothisandscared said:

It does get better, trust me. I had about 3 rough weeks but then it gets better :). We are all here for you :).

Thanks for helping share your experience.  Can you describe after three weeks did you feel back to "normal" physically?  

How long are you in? Any repeat recurrences? If so how were those in comparison to the primary?


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my first Ob was similar with the bad throat infection and a UTI. I was given a bunch of  different antibiotics too and none of the drs thought the UTI and throat infection was related to the genital herpes but it was. I was in some foreign country too with no heated bathrooms in the coldest winter in 40 years. Bonus! I really wanted to go home but I was too sick.

Order of operations: I had a UTI, then the sores, then the bad throat infection, then more sores.  3 different antibiotics, then Acyclovir. the antibiotics then gave me a terrible yeast infection too. Yay!

4 hours ago, FreshPeppered said:

My regimen was to sleep, pee basically doing a handstand, cry and wince from attempting to wipe, give up, shower it off, soak in the tub, air dry or use the blow dryer to keep the area clean, sleep more. Cry. Repeat. 

yes, that sounds about right. 


Are you sure you didn't just catch it from your new BF? It sounds like the first OB/new infection, not one that you already had. I suspect you got it from him if you had sex anywhere from 3 days to 2 weeks from infection.

The first one is the worst, but I've had one recently that was pretty bad and took 2 weeks to heal , burning,  sore throat...  just without the fever and spots on tonsils. 

it sounds like you did everything  you could do to try to make it  as "pain-free" as possible. epson salts/showering off

 HUgs your way. :heart:

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31 minutes ago, Scooby2112 said:

Thanks for helping share your experience.  Can you describe after three weeks did you feel back to "normal" physically?  

How long are you in? Any repeat recurrences? If so how were those in comparison to the primary?


My first outbreak was in December of 2016. I was on vacation when it started and as soon as I came home, about 5 days into my outbreak, I was swabbed (i was not sure if it was folliculitis or herpes)  My boyfriend has been getting cold sores for 40 years and when we engaged in oral he had no sores or prodrome, but obviously the virus sheds asymptomatically. I shave completely down there which also increased my odds. GSHV1 was the swab result. The first week was difficult with sores of different stages and fatigue and painful urination. I was on a 10 day regimen of Valtrex 500mg twice a day. It took time and supplements. I used zinc and bee propalis topically on the sores which was messy but helpful. I had prodrome for quite a bit after as well as swollen groin lymph nodes. I had 2 other outbreaks after, one around Easter and one in July. Much less painful, less sores and less overall fatigue/malaise....it is very much a psychological hurdle as well. Mind over matter :).

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Sorry to hear your diagnosis. I too have been getting the metallic taste but before I even took any medication.

Ive also been getting a burning throat but not sure how that can come from ghsv2

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