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Please help , I was diagnosed with herpes type 2 less than 2 days ago and I have not stopped crying since. I am 18 years old and I feel like I have ruined my whole life. The stigma attached to this is so bad that I am also ashamed of myself I can’t look at myself in the mirror without hating myself. I cannot bare to tell anyone and fear that I may never have another relationship because who’s going to want me now ??

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Welcome to honeycomb. At the present time I think its important to take this time to process what's going on with your body and to practice self love. You're still young and there's plenty of time for dating and to worry about anything like that. With time it will get easier and soon you will come to realise that once you're comfortable with living with the virus that dating will be a little easier to approach. Remember that you're the same person you were a day ago, a week ago and even a year ago but now with a little more life knowledge. Use this experience for good! If you need to talk I'm here; feel free to contact me.. 

If you're really struggling please reach out to a health professional to organise some sort of support in your journey to processing all of this. Lots of hugs 

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You will be okay Dav, I too was just diagnosed and it is a very hard and dark time those first few weeks. I have come to realize I am the same smart, beautiful, funny girl I once was and something like this can not change that. You would also be SO surprised by how many people have this and go on to live NORMAL lives. For instance when I told my parents about this whole ordeal my mom laughed and said "your father has had herpes since we started dating and it was NEVER an issue and I never got it!" This totally surprised me and it just goes to show that there are many many people that live with this disease and does not impact their life at all. I also have a boyfriend who is very understanding of my status and it does not affect the way he views me and he tells me he is the luckiest guy in the world to have me as his girlfriend and I have H. So you will see that in time this really isn't a huge deal and people will love and accept you for who you are H or not. *hugs*

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It will be ok. Be sure you are on antivirals for the initial outbreak. Take a multivitamin, get sleep, and lower your sugar intake. Put tea tree oil and coconut oil on any open wounds. Be sure to not spread it around to new places. 

Things should calm down within the first year. If it's any consolation... having to tell potential partners about herpes weeds out the assholes real fast! And they aren't all assholes... really.

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It’s a lot more comforting knowing that I’m not alone in this as I have spent the past two days in bed trying to sleep all day so I didn’t have to think about it. I think one of my main concerns is giving it to a potential partner and then hating me for it and telling everyone . The thought of that is my worst nightmare. Right now the thought of anyone else knowing apart from my mother makes me so embarrassed 

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6 minutes ago, WarriorKing said:

Hey, i got this when i was 20 ... nearly 40 years ago. Most adults all around you quietly carry it also. All of life is still open to you.

What type of hsv did you get at 20?

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12 hours ago, Dav19 said:

It’s a lot more comforting knowing that I’m not alone in this as I have spent the past two days in bed trying to sleep all day so I didn’t have to think about it. I think one of my main concerns is giving it to a potential partner and then hating me for it and telling everyone . The thought of that is my worst nightmare. Right now the thought of anyone else knowing apart from my mother makes me so embarrassed 

You will find out alot around you will also have it in reality. You will find someone ,I have disclosed before and had a year relationship last year so there's one positive disclosure you can know about. Just focus on yourself for Abit and things will get better!  Just remember it is a extremely common skin virus that anyone in any situation can unknowingly get

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2 minutes ago, fixme1 said:

You will find out alot around you will also have it in reality. You will find someone ,I have disclosed before and had a year relationship last year so there's one positive disclosure you can know about. Just focus on yourself for Abit and things will get better!  Just remember it is a extremely common skin virus that anyone in any situation can unknowingly get

some people spread in intentionally.

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Day 3 and it’s fair to say I’ve experienced more emotions in the past couple of days than I have in my lifetime. Just want to express how thankful I am for this site and everyone’s openness to share their stories and I can take a little bit of positivity and knowledge from each one. The main problem I was facing was what everyone would think of me as everyone who has not been diagnosed seems to be so uneducated on the virus but I know that I need to focus on myself and understand it myself before I should even think about anyone else 

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