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    TXhelp

    Hello. I’m reaching out for some help and am really desperate. On 1/1 I had unprotected oral (both ways) and protected intercourse with a stranger. On 1/3 I noticed some very faint red spots on the head of my penis. I obviously freaked out, started googling and my head has been a disaster since. Since then the red spots have remained although sometimes when I inspect it they are almost unnoticeable. They have gotten no bigger, do not itch or hurt. There were a couple of days that I felt occassional itchiness on my testicles but so mild it could’ve been imagined. On 1/5 I felt what seemed like a cold sore starting on the corner of my lip. That only lasted about 48 hours, never got red or really even visible. On 1/6-1/7 I started getting really foggy headed and fatigued but I was also in the process of moving across the country. I don’t think I ever had a fever but I never took my temp.

    Again, I read way too much stuff online so it’s hard to say what I have actually felt and what I thought I felt. I think I’ve felt the “tingling” occassinally but only when I’m sitting and thinking about it. When I’m doing something I never feel anything.

    On 1/9 I started to get a sore throat. Looking in the mirror I could see a couple of decent sized solid white spots on one tonsil. Went to a quick clinic that day and they doc checked me for strep which was negative. I explained to her everything that had happened and what I was worried about and she seemed to think I was ok. She called it tonsillitis and gave me an amoxicillin prescription.

    On 1/10 I finally got into an STD clinic. Explained everything to the doc, again she didn’t seem overly concerned. They took a urine sample and she swabbed the white spots in my throat at my request. There was really nothing to swab on my penis but she did examine it and said she didn’t see anything that looked like herpes to her. There is one spot right on the opening of my penis that looks like a raised bump but it isn’t red or anything.

    So, now I’m waiting to hear from that. I know its too early for blood test. I still have the faint red spots, nothing is what I would call a cluster. Still have the sore throat and the faintest cough this morning 1/11. White spots are still present in throat.

    Obviously I made a very poor decision and complicating it I am in a committed relationship. The LAST thing I want to do is spread anything.

    I have no one to talk to about this and it’s literally driving me crazy. When I saw the doc for my throat she said my blood pressure was WAY high.

    I don’t have pics right now. Really looking for any help, advice, thoughts.

    Thank you so much!

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    SureWhyNot

    Hello  I hate to see you hanging and scared. The fact that you had 2 trained specialists visually assess the sores as unlikely hsv, you should be thrilled and hang on to that belief. If you are going to do research on the computer look up natural ways to help your body fight back from things we come in contact with. I am certainly not saying to seek out some of these unusual herbs listed in the ncbi link because they must be under specialized supervision but.. instead of focusing on your fears focus on fighting back with everyday things that heal the body. At least while you are waiting for test results you can feel in charge of your life again. Gargle with sea salt to see if that helps clear your throat. You said yourself you only feel it when you are thinking of it. Then think that you are wiping out anything that has come near you by eating the best you can or on Oil of Oregano that is a powerful natural virus fighter. Did you know sugar slows your immune system down while your body deals with it?

    https://www.thehealthyhomeeconomist.com/how-to-use-best-natural-antibiotics/

    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4032839/

    Forgive me if you are already aware of the impact of everything we eat. You may also benefit from talking to a professional as this could be a manifestation of your guilt. I have almost talked myself into an OB just by reading things here. The brain body connection is incredibly strong and guilt will amplify that.

    We understand what you are going through here and wish to help you.

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    Scooby2112

    The symptoms don't point to herpes.  

    Guilt and anxiety can lead to significant manifestations of actual physical issues. Including increased sensations in the area under focus (genital) and stress creates increased hormone responses in the body triggering cortisol production which can lower immune system and cause an increase in other symtoms.  

    For googling information.  I would recommend staying to sites like ASHA or Westover heights (Terri Warren). Where they are run by experts and not mistaking anecdotal unproven herpes stories to get the best of you.  

    Since you saw a couple Drs I would rely on their expertise.  

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    TXhelp

    Thank you for the replies. I have another question. Assuming it IS an outbreak would it likely be in one area? For example, the red spots I’m seeing are on the tip of my penis (also, I’m uncircumcised if that matters). But I also could be imagining a spot on the bottom of scrotum and an itchy spot half way between my belly button and penis. Could there be multiple places that spread out?

    Also could it be a simultaneous outbreak on my genitals and inside my mouth?

     

    Thanks again, I know I’m in my own head.

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    Scooby2112

    A primary outbreak is typically somewhat more disseminated.  

    It would start at the point of viral transfer and friction.  In a male that is typically the penis.  Then it could spread to the boxer short region.  But should completely resolve in 2-4 weeks.  Individual blisters typically form, scab, and heal in the course of 5-14 days.  

    Recurrences are typically more localized to one location and on one side of the body.  

    If you were Infected in both locations you could have an outbreak in one, or both locations.  No rule there that I know of.  

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    TXhelp

    You mentioned it would start at the point of viral transfer. The very first spots I noticed were on the tip of my penis. However, I was wearing a condom during intercourse. Would that make a difference. Of course if it was hsv-1 I assume it could have been transferred during oral but for some reason I’m freaked out that it’s hsv-2. 

    Today I started to have pain in my left testicle and abdomen but I don’t see either of those as typical symptoms when I research. Today is day 9 since I first noticed the red spots and 11 days since possible exposure. Still no blisters that I have seen.

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    Scooby2112

    A condom would make a difference as the virus only transfers via direct skin to skin contact.  You are correct oral would be possible for HSV1.  

    Did you ask if they have oral HSV1 or cold sores?

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    TXhelp

    Unfortunately I did not ask nor expect any sores or viruses. I also have no way to contact this person. Totally understand this was all very foolish.

    In my mind they had hsv-2 that got around the condom and also got in my mouth when I went down on her.

    The testicle pain that started today is concerning but also doesn’t seem like a typical symptom.

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    Scooby2112

    Hsv2 wouldn't get around the condom.  Hsv2 can infect the mouth but it will generally not show symptoms other than possibly one time.  Hsv2 orally is not something to worry about.  

    Testicle pain could be anxiety based symptoms.  

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    fondazione

    See urologist, I went to see a urologist after being recommended by a herpes specialist from a herpes support group.  Urologist gave me a prostate exam and said I have prostatitis.  You may not have prostatitis but it may be worth checking since the tip of your penis is sensitive.

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    TXhelp

    This morning I woke up with hip pain in my left hip. Again, I’m sure I am hyper aware of every pain and itch right now. This is day 11 since POSSIBLE exposure and basically I have had some flu like symptoms, VERY sore throat diagnosed as tonsillitis, a few faint red spots on glans but not blisters or lesions, not itching or pain other than a little pain yesterday in my left testicle.

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    TXhelp

    Found this this morning on the inside of my thigh

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    Scooby2112

    It would be strange to get a sore on your thigh as hre first sign of infection.  A primary would show in an area the virus had direct transfer and friction.  The thigh skin takes much more friction to get an infection since it is thicker than the penis.  

    But it's possible.  A this point all I can say is go to a dermatologist or doctor to look at it.  They can swab it and get a result if done in 24 /48 hours.  

     

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    TXhelp

    Also had this pop up on the tip of my tongue a couple of days ago. It’s pretty small but is sore. Again, I did perform oral sex on this person and still have white spots on both of my tonsils. In fact those haven’t gotten any better despite taking antibiotics for 3 days. The clinic diagnosed this as tonsillitis, tested negative for strep.

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    Scooby2112

    I can't say for sure.  Not a Dr.  But generally herpes forms on the mouth not in the mouth.  There are cases in the mouth but generally this is true.  

    There are may things that cause bumps in the mouth, most times you likely never notice it and they go away.  

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