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I’ve been diagnosed for a month now and I take daily suppressive therapy. I haven’t had sex since finding out , but when I do decide to after notifying a partner how do I go about not transmitting it ? 

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Scooby2112

Take suppressive therapy, use a condom and avoid sex during times when you have an outbreak or any strange sensations going on.  

I assume you have hsv2?

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WilsoInAus

I think it would be well worth your while getting retested. If that is still low positive consider the Westernblot.

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