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I have had this sti for about six years, I am crippled by fear and anxiety because of it. Well I have been dating my current boyfriend for about two months and still have not told him. Every time I try I fall short. Now I have even more anxiety and it’s affecting other relationships in my life. I am so very ready to heal. I don’t know how to approach the subject with my boyfriend now.

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@SugarHoneyIceTea I didnt tell my bf for 6-8 weeks it was hard he knew something was up I of course started crying try not to do that. I asked him if he knew about fever blisters on the lips which is herpes 1, he did he had them as a child but not for quite sometime, I then explained I jsut got blisyers down there that the guy I was with befor him did not tell me. he was pissed that the guy didnt tell me, I had just been infected before I started dating him I met this bf by chance. I informed him I was just learning about it and we could learn together, I also asked him if he wanted to speak with a guy from this site about it. He spoke to JB. I asked my bf to get tested to find out if he had t, he got tested and had lo numbers for ha. We have been together 2 years. I suggest you inform him. Let me know how it goes. 

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I told him last night and he's still here. He wasn't angry or anything. .  . He said that it's manageable, he loves me and wants to make it work.

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