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My FWB of 7yrs, yes very complicated, every once in a while is with other ppl always uses protection. Him&I don't, I don't have HSV, he has for 4yrs from an ex,very often after sex he'll get irritated or small outbreak, from everything I've read its probably friction, he doesn't get when he uses condoms the few times other ppl, only happens with me,last time I gave him oral he got a small sore same place, he's also not cut, help need answers feel like it's me, but been tested I'm negative every time, idk?? 

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WilsoInAus

Note that you cannot induce an outbreak in another person simply by having HSV yourself. This means even if he had an authentic outbreak after having sex with you - this is entirely independent of your herpes status.

If your testing is negative, you are negative. Thus if what he gets are outbreaks, the cause is perhaps friction. Of course what he is experiencing may not be a herpes outbreak.

 

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2 hours ago, WilsoInAus said:

Note that you cannot induce an outbreak in another person simply by having HSV yourself. This means even if he had an authentic outbreak after having sex with you - this is entirely independent of your herpes status.

If your testing is negative, you are negative. Thus if what he gets are outbreaks, the cause is perhaps friction. Of course what he is experiencing may not be a herpes outbreak.

 

I think I may have worded this wrong, he def has HSV,from an ex 1st 2 outbreaks we're bad, with me since then he calls it irritated, but sometimes it's a 1-2small bumps and is definitely that,he takes a few Valtrex start disappearing,idk why it's happening and I feel bad,every other time were intimate it happens, just looking for some answers and thank you, I said was friction, cuz with condom don't get that especially when not circumcised

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