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By akinorew
Assalamu alaikum! Bismillah.
ABOUT ME: I have been happily Muslim for 3 years and every day I thank Allah for the guidance. I am originally from Poland, but have been in the US for a while - I went to grad school here and now I work in research & data analytics. I like my job, but the end goal is to get a degree in Islamic sciences and teach my beautiful religion. InshAllah.
I enjoy simple things: outdoors, cooking, reading, spending time with my friends. I'd consider myself an introvert, but I open up to those who I know well.
I make continuous effort to practice and study Islam to the best of my abilities. It is extremely important to me that my future spouse does the same and that we can help each other on the Straight Path, with the help of Allah.
I AM LOOKING FOR: someone who loves Islam as much as I do and fulfills all the pillars, but is gentle to himself and others. Someone who understands responsibilities of a husband and wants to create a family following the example of our Prophets, peace be upon them. Someone who does not base their religious practices solely on the culture, but rather seeks knowledge. How you serve Allah is the most important to me, after that I look for someone warm, funny, supportive that I can vibe with. Preferably not a couch potato. Oh, I am 5'4'' , in case being taller is significant to you.
If you are interested message me here or drop a comment with similar info. BUT only if your intention is to get married and if you are serious about your faith and life. I am way passed dating and talking nonsense, let's get to know each other but not waste time. If you prefer to contact my wali, I can provide the info.
W.
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By HSV2sucks
On Feb 10, I slept with somebody new. I specifically asked him if he had been tested for HSV and HIV via blood test. He told me he had just been tested two months ago and everything was negative and he hadn’t slept with anybody in a year. He either lied to me about being tested or lied about his status. I believe he knew he had HSV2, was not taking antivirals, and didn’t care if he infected me. Now he is using it to make me feel like I HAVE to stay with him because we both have this. And he is minimizing it.
I am in pain, depressed, having suicidal thoughts (don’t think I’d act on them), and feeling hopeless. I have nerve pain all over my genitals, my lower back, my butt, back of my legs. It’s a constant pain and burning. I’m also bleeding as if I’m on a light period! ITS AWFUL! I don’t understand why anybody minimizes this!!! INFORMED CONSENT IS SO IMPORTANT! I feel violated! I’m so angry
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By nwlondoner
Hey, everyone, I wasn't sure where else to post but I'm hoping to reach out to other people in a similar situation to myself (Muslim with herpes). I'd just like to find someone who I can talk to maybe and find out how they've dealt with it and their experiences so far.
So, I found out last week through a private blood test that I have herpes. It felt like my entire future shattered before me and I actually couldn't even cry on the first day, I was just in so much shock. It was only the next day that I found myself, just crying randomly out of nowhere.
I had thought i was clean and free from any STDs as I had taken a blood test at an NHS sexual health clinic however it turned out that they don't include the herpes blood screen as most people are asymptomatic and they want to reduce the stigma attached with herpes. At first, I thought ignorance would have been bliss in this situation as most people will have herpes but not be told that they have it unless they take a private blood test or show symptoms.
But then, I just thought that I could be passing it onto other people and what made me scared the most was about passing it onto family members, especially young children like young niece and nephew who I've kissed and potentially put at risk. I feel so paranoid when I'm near young babies now and try to keep my distance, I've seen pictures in article about a newborn baby was kissed by someone with herpes and their eye has swollen up.
Islamically, you're not allowed to marry a person without telling them you have herpes. I was just wondering if there were any Muslims would have been able to get married and how they found their spouse.
Also, a general question that I wanted to ask everyone? How do I deal with the paranoia of passing on herpes to others? I've been very careful about washing anything I've used like glasses and cutlery, like scrubbing them thoroughly with soap.
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By abdull81
alsalam aliykom sisters and brothers
im looking for 7alal inshaAllah .. i have been diagnosed hsv2 since 5 years ago .. my ex wife passed it to me .. i was 32 years old virgin man .. she was my first but ..alhamdulillah i
believe that every thing happens for reason .. anyway
im here seeking 7alal so we can complete and love each other .. may Allah make it easy for us to find our ways
E mail: mohammed_tempe@hotmail.com
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By Elly86
I've known my fiance for couple of years, and in our country, before we get married, it is compulsary for the couple to screen for HIV test. The test showed negative for both of us. Then we decided to take an STD test (without any symptoms) just to make sure and this test include Syphyllis, Chlamydia n both type of HSV. The results came with me having negative for all STDs and my fiance having all negative except for HSV-1 (igG blood test).
I am under so much pressure right now to consider of calling off the wedding or continue with it. My concern is that how it going to affect my pregnancy and my life as a whole.
I love my fiance so much, I try to support him as much as I can. I just have certain worry about my future in terms of pregnancy and whether Im gonna contract HSV-1 oral or genital? Cause my fiance did not show any symptom either on his mounth or genital
Anyone can give me advice regarding this..Im so much appreciate it.
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By WilsoInAus · Posted
@CHT my comments regarding your race and socio-economic status are not rude, sounds like they were accurate. I just want you to be aware that there is unconscious bias in your comments based on your perspective. Yes I stand by my comments that the US healthcare system is shameful. If that loses integrity in your eyes, then that is where you sit relative to the healthcare system and my public health philosophies. There is nothing shameful about expressing ones philosophies. Have I been antagonistic in the way I have expressed these things. Yes I have and I apologise for that. I think overall I was pretty shocked that you believed that the majority of infections were asymptomatic for the receiver. Your personal experience was quite the opposite and I admit I was perplexed why you didn't share your personal experience with someone who really wanted to hear a story of a true genital infection. -
By CHT · Posted
"talking up the chances of infection" What? Wilson, you are now making up dialogue that never occurred. He asked about testing and when symptoms might manifest.... I answered his questions and then asked why he felt he may be infected? You need to go back and read over the actual messages.... never once did I "talk up the chance of infection." You have done a poor job of reading between the lines of my messages back to "Dumbass." I suggested he may want to meet with a doctor to discuss his situation with the goal of alleviating his concerns about infection particularly since the little bit of information he provided would likely indicate he had a low chance of infection in my opinion.... hearing it from a medical professional, especially with testing, would help confirm this and give him peace of mind. Wilson, what really surprises me is your last paragraph. I have read many of your posts on this website over the last couple of years and have always held your opinions in high regard.... always well informed and you never resort to petty insults and bullying even when challenged. However, your snide speculations about my race and socio-economic status are rude, unnecessary and clearly antagonistic. Further, your remarks about the healthcare system in the US were clearly hostile, not to mention showing a gross ignorance of how healthcare works here. Your statements were shameful.... lost integrity. -
By WilsoInAus · Posted
I'm sorry @CHT you did not give the full information. The chances are not high they will not have recognisable symptoms. And if they do not have recognisable symptoms, then what is the point of going to a doctor for a swab? It is your obligation to tell people their chances and they how arrive at the correct diagnosis through available tests. Are you aware of the psychological harm that you have probably caused by talking up the chance of infection. You didn't say that there would be 50% plus chance that the person did not have HSV-2 in the first place and that the episode was less than a 1 in 1,000 chance. What happened to those odds? What role do they play when you are interpreting symptoms or their absence? In life, you support someone by saying what they NEED to hear and not WHAT you know or want to say. Further, let me guess, white middle class? The bulk of the population cannot afford nor are granted access to health care in your country. Must be nice to be able to afford a clinical evaluation, but let's spare a though for those who can't afford that. All they can do is go with the odds and they are perfectly entitled to do that in their circumstances -
By ZealousidealAide7 · Posted
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By CHT · Posted
"Simply because people think they are asymptomatic doesn't mean they are. When they go to a doctor for education and consciously on the lookout, there is a very high probability if they are infected they will find something." Absolutely true, no argument on the study you reference. I am also aware of the clinical studies that have demonstrated that those who self-reported as "asymptomatic" when evaluated by medical professionals are made aware that they they aren't actually asymptomatic. However, going back to the original question at hand as to whether those who are infected demonstrate recognizable symptoms, the answer is still (as per CDC, WHO, and other reliable sources):"Most individuals infected with HSV are asymptomatic or have very mild symptoms that go unnoticed or are mistaken for another skin condition" So, when someone comes to this site seeking advice and help when they suspect they are newly infected, we have an obligation to point out, as I did in this situation, that the chances are high that they may not have symptoms, or recognize any symptoms, so, waiting to observe the classic symptoms (that they will no doubt look up online and find all sorts of photos showing "this is what a herpes outbreak looks like") will likely not detect those symptoms.... but, it does not mean they do not have the virus. Obviously, most infected individuals won't have the benefit of weeks of clinical observation/testing to help them identify easily misidentified (or asymptomatic) symptoms..... these infected individuals will then move along thinking "I dodged the herpes bullet" and quite easily and unknowingly pass the virus on to others. This occurs frequently when a person who does test positive confronts the person they believe gave them the "gift" and this gift-giver" vehemently denies having the virus since they have never had symptoms of herpes..... (which, again, is very likely as the CDC and WHO clearly point out). Again, in the unlikely event this person were to enter into a clinical evaluation (as you referenced above), including testing/swabbing, they may find out otherwise. This fact is one of the main reasons the virus continues to get passed along to others and the percentages of people becoming infected (particularly younger aged population) continues to increase.
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