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I had my first real cold sore six weeks ago. I say “real” bc I do recall in the past having a small red bump in the exact location my full blown sore occurred and putting abreva on it and it never developed further (this was 5 years ago). The full blown sore left a noticeable scar on my face that is really upsetting to me. 

I’m officially obsessed. The moment I wake up I check my face for sores. I’ve read every single thing on the internet concerning hsv1. There is so much conflicting information that exists online and i am left with questions. 

Can this be transmitted by sharing pipes, bongs, cups, when sores are not present? 

I know the majority of humans have hsv1, but I’m very concerned about passing this to my bf through oral sex. Can anyone provide statistics on passing ohsv1 to Genitals? Im 39 and his 45 and we have both had our fair share of partners so I can’t imagine he hasn’t been exposed but he thinks getting tested is a waste of time and money considering the stats on ohsv1. 

I feel constant tingling on my upper lip. How can I know that a sore is coming soon? The tingling is probably mostly in my head since I can’t stop thinking about it.

i am aware im being ridiculous and that there are sooooo many worse things in life. I do tend to be obsessive in general. Any useful information would be appreciated. 

 

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WannaCry

HSV is not transferred between people from inanimate objects barring a situation where you were to rub an active, weeping sore on the item and the person immediately take it and rub it on their mouth. Even then it's unlikely to successfully transfer.

So no as long as you have no active sores there is not a transmission risk from using a pipe and then handing it off.

You should have your BF do a blood test for HSV1. If he comes back as positive (and it's likely as it's widely prevalent) then it is HIGHLY unlikely he would ever contract GHSV1 from you. (there are some rare occurance of it happening, usually involving sex during an OB) Obviously do not do sexual things with an active OB or prodome symptoms.

If he is actually HSV1 - then you two will have to decide how to handle that. Some people decide they do not care, other decide to try suppressive therapy.

Most of your constant tingling and such is because you are fixating and freaking out. It will pass once you get settled down about this situation. Also prodome symptoms vary a bit person to person but the typical ones are burning/throbbing feelings on the lip

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Itiswhatitisiguess

Thank you very much. I’ve read in other places online that it is possible to transmit from cups or utensils etc. if that’s not the case, then this surely must be an older infection for me bc I’ve had no physical contact with anyone new In six years. I guess I just missed the symptoms of my real primary outbreak maybe. 

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Dope1

Is this redness mark left the kind of like a hyperpigmentation mark?  Having a similar problem - it's been 4 months.  

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Itiswhatitisiguess
21 hours ago, Dope1 said:

Is this redness mark left the kind of like a hyperpigmentation mark?  Having a similar problem - it's been 4 months.  

I think so. It’s in the same shape as the blisters and red. I hate it!!!!

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KCookie

To be honest I have always obsessed about cold sores. Constantly checking and feeling my lips. Year before last was my worst year with one every month. I lock myself inside and don't leave the house until it's gone. Yes I even take time off work. As you said there worse things in life but when I get one to me it's the end of the world. I just can't stop worrying about it which sometimes leads into another one at the same time. 

When I have an OB I don't go anywhere near my wife or kids, and they know not to touch anything of mine. Soon as it's gone I normally wait a few days before we are sexually active. My wife has had a couple of sore in the 20 years we have been together, so I'm hoping she hasn't got it from me as we are so careful. Pillow cases, sheets are washed new toothbrush and I always have my own toothpaste. When I had the bad year they were so frequent that I didn't kiss my kids all year. I hate the things, even to the point of wanting to end my life and having to take anti depressants. They used to rule my life. I had two sores in the last few weeks with a 14 month gap. I was so happy, the happiest I've been in 20 years, no worry or stress then all of a sudden two bloody sores and back to square one, constantly looking in the mirror just hoping one isn't there when I wake up.  

I feel for you, and hope you never get another one. 

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16 hours ago, KCookie said:

To be honest I have always obsessed about cold sores. Constantly checking and feeling my lips. Year before last was my worst year with one every month. I lock myself inside and don't leave the house until it's gone. Yes I even take time off work. As you said there worse things in life but when I get one to me it's the end of the world. I just can't stop worrying about it which sometimes leads into another one at the same time. 

When I have an OB I don't go anywhere near my wife or kids, and they know not to touch anything of mine. Soon as it's gone I normally wait a few days before we are sexually active. My wife has had a couple of sore in the 20 years we have been together, so I'm hoping she hasn't got it from me as we are so careful. Pillow cases, sheets are washed new toothbrush and I always have my own toothpaste. When I had the bad year they were so frequent that I didn't kiss my kids all year. I hate the things, even to the point of wanting to end my life and having to take anti depressants. They used to rule my life. I had two sores in the last few weeks with a 14 month gap. I was so happy, the happiest I've been in 20 years, no worry or stress then all of a sudden two bloody sores and back to square one, constantly looking in the mirror just hoping one isn't there when I wake up.  

I feel for you, and hope you never get another one. 

I’m so sorry this is negatively effecting you so much! I know I’ve been incredibly lucky to be almost 40 before my first cold sore. I imagine this would’ve been much more of a blow to my self esteem if this had happened 20 years ago. 

I’m not a mom, I’m sure that’s so hard worrying about your kids! I worry about my nieces and nephews and find myself quarantining anything that came in contact with my mouth or face when they are around. 

I hope you find peace about this situation 

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Itiswhatitisiguess

I feel like I’m making peace with it more every day. In the end life’s short and I’m so so lucky in so many ways 

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KCookie

Well I've managed to get another sore today. Really don't understand after 14 months without one how I can get them again. Three in a row. Had one on the 3.3.18 for 5 days, then the big one 10 days later for 9 days, now 8 days after that went I've another. Looks like I'm going to have a bad year. Don't know what I've done so bad in life to deserve theses. 

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Itiswhatitisiguess

@KCookie gah!!! I’m so sorry. Have you tried suppressive therapy? I’m currently uninsured so it’s not an option for me right now but maybe it would give you some relief? 

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KCookie

I've actually been on Famvir for years, going back to the docs on Monday to see if these anything stronger to take.

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