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Does anyone of you have kids? I been having the fear of passing it to my 2 boys who are 9 and 5. My 5 year old stays in everything keeps his hands in his mouth and face all the time. Likes to try to eat and drink off me. He stills like me to wash him up and put his lotion on. 

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I have a 1 year old and he does the same. But I always just keep my hands washed and anytime I know I’m going to touch him hands are washed and I dont touch my face at all. If he happens to touch my face I panic and wash his hands right away. I keep hand sanitizer and disinfectant spray/wipes around me 24/7. I like u panic everyday because I do not wanna pass this to my child.  He’s always in my face ALWAYSSSSSS.  So I know exactly how you feel hun and it gets easier with time. If you have it orally. No kissing in the mouth or near the eyes whatso ever

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16 hours ago, Ashley738 said:

I have a 1 year old and he does the same. But I always just keep my hands washed and anytime I know I’m going to touch him hands are washed and I dont touch my face at all. If he happens to touch my face I panic and wash his hands right away. I keep hand sanitizer and disinfectant spray/wipes around me 24/7. I like u panic everyday because I do not wanna pass this to my child.  He’s always in my face ALWAYSSSSSS.  So I know exactly how you feel hun and it gets easier with time. If you have it orally. No kissing in the mouth or near the eyes whatso ever

Omg yes I stay with disinfectant wipes and spray. I feel so horrible because my kids love hugging and being on me i feel I get kinda defensive because they don' be wanting them touch me anymore. I constantly make us all wash are hands and I use gloves all the time now

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10 minutes ago, Curious2 said:

Omg yes I stay with disinfectant wipes and spray. I feel so horrible because my kids love hugging and being on me i feel I get kinda defensive because they don' be wanting them touch me anymore. I constantly make us all wash are hands and I use gloves all the time now

You have HSV-2 right? As such this genital infection is not transferrable to people you do not have sex with. It is not in your mouth or on your hands. You can kiss, cuddle and play with your kids, share food, anything... and transmission chances will be zero.

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Well I’m not sure which type she has but with cold sores yeah you have to be cautious. I’m not to sure about Hsv2 as it can also be Oral Hsv2. I’m pretty sure if you have Genital Hsv2. You wouldn’t be touching down there and then your kids in the mouth or genital area or allowing them to be down there so I should be fine

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8 hours ago, WilsoInAus said:

You have HSV-2 right? As such this genital infection is not transferrable to people you do not have sex with. It is not in your mouth or on your hands. You can kiss, cuddle and play with your kids, share food, anything... and transmission chances will be zero.

Yes I have hsv2. But I still feel that it can end up moving around to another body part. I felt tingling all over my body before so I'm not convined that' that is true

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13 hours ago, Curious2 said:

Yes I have hsv2. But I still feel that it can end up moving around to another body part. I felt tingling all over my body before so I'm not convined that' that is true

I am very pleased to report that this is entirely true. There is not one person on this forum or anywhere that has transferred their genital HSV-2 infection to a child from the activities of kissing, sharing food and cuddling!

Please be convinced, I'm sure your children want all those things, they deserve them... and so do you :)

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I have a 3 year old and was just diagnosed with GHSV1. While I know it is so very unlikely and probably 99.9% would never get passed it is still such a scary thought. You look at how innocent they are and that they have their whole lives ahead of them and you don’t want this to be something they have to live with.

Before I knew too much when I had an OB I was avoiding kissing my daughter and she would get so upset when I said I can’t kiss you right now. Now that I’m a bit more informed I’m not concerned with the cuddles and kissing. But I do still take precautions. 

I make sure I wash towels after every use (I know pointless as you can’t catch it from a towel but still), I make sure I wipe the toilets daily but she only uses hers so it’s not that big of an issue. I don’t leave dirty clothes laying around and I am obsessive about washing my hands. During my last OB my fingers actually cracked from so much washing!

I think as a mom it’s just instinctual to protect our littles from anything harmful and it is so hard to realize we might be harmful to them because of this virus. It’s terrifying! However, I feel almost blessed that I have it in a place that’s constantly covered and she is not exposed to. My husband has it orally and I can see how hard it is on him not to kiss her face. He gave it to my when he had asymptotic shedding so he’s more afraid then ever to pass it on to her.

However, I do have to say my husband contracted his at age 7 from his mom and he has had a very normal life with normal relationships and is now married with a kid so it wouldn’t be the end of the world if she did get it, although I will still try my hardest to keep her from getting the virus!

 

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But you can take things to extreme. You actually do not need to do anything pragmatically and the chances of your HSV-1 transferring are zero.

However, what do you do about your husband? The catch and kiss boys at school? Aunts and uncles?

There is an interesting dilemma. Given there’s a 90% chance of ultimately being infected, is it better to have an oral or genital infection? Is it better to have an oral infection from your youth than to be exposed to a double location infection once sexually active?

The point is that the best advice is to “let it go”. Life can be over before you know it obsessing over things that make only the difference you let them.

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