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If you have herpes is it important too disclose them before kissing? I think it is but don't most people have cold sores or been exposed? FYI I don't plan on going out and spreading them but i also have hsv2 so it makes dating even more challenging.

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Yes you do have to disclose if someone you  cold sores. You have both mouth and genital herpes so it’s important to let people know. 

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On 5/10/2018 at 10:53 PM, Taintedgirl said:

Yes you do have to disclose if someone you  cold sores. You have both mouth and genital herpes so it’s important to let people know. 

What if a kiss just happens though it seems like it could be real challenging to  say "wait before you kiss me I get cold sores" real hard thing to do. I've only had 2 cold sores in 4 years and the first one was hardly one. I guess it's the right thing to do but most people get cold sores,

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Idk I think that if they have sex with you send to the shower right when you are done and things will be ok.  I had sex for a year with a guy that had herpes and I had no idea he would just tell me to take a shower right when we were done I thought he was paranoid about me getting pregnant. No herpes or anything. Then one day no shower. I was drunk when I got home and didn’t take one until the next day. Now I ha e terrible hsv 2. For a yr before nothing.  Don’t let it sink in or she will get it. He was just breaking up with me.

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8 hours ago, brookeb300 said:

Idk I think that if they have sex with you send to the shower right when you are done and things will be ok.  I had sex for a year with a guy that had herpes and I had no idea he would just tell me to take a shower right when we were done I thought he was paranoid about me getting pregnant. No herpes or anything. Then one day no shower. I was drunk when I got home and didn’t take one until the next day. Now I ha e terrible hsv 2. For a yr before nothing.  Don’t let it sink in or she will get it. He was just breaking up with me.

Sorry to hear that's awful that he gave it and didn't disclose I don't think a shower could stop transmission but who knows.

 

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59 minutes ago, valleynovascotia said:

Sorry to hear that's awful that he gave it and didn't disclose I don't think a shower could stop transmission but who knows.

 

It’s easy to think selfishly and say oh but everybody has it but you don’t know how it’s affect someone a lot of people here are going through hell because someone thought that way. Imagine have a normal body one day and a host of health problems the next all because someone wanted intimacy it’s honestly not fair. 

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11 hours ago, Taintedgirl said:

It’s easy to think selfishly and say oh but everybody has it but you don’t know how it’s affect someone a lot of people here are going through hell because someone thought that way. Imagine have a normal body one day and a host of health problems the next all because someone wanted intimacy it’s honestly not fair. 

Yeah that's what happened too me now It's wrecked every potential date. Maybe I could ask her if she had ever gotten a cold sore it doesn't matter guys as soon as i mention herpes it's over anyhow.

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