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Can anyone help me understand these results? I had a "potential exposure" 2 months ago. After being notified, I went to test myself (3 weeks after potential exposure) I was positive for hsv1 (I've always had cold sores. Negative for hsv2. A week later partner said his doctor said he could have unprotected sex and he did not have herpes, yet his doctor told him to keep an eye out for outbreaks? Tested a weekly later and still negative. I also did a swab test of a "pimple" and it was negative. These are my partners results, to me it appears he is indeed negative on HSV2. Anyone understand this better? I am a mess thinking he is positive and now I am positive. 

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Hey @Abs and welcome to the website.

At the moment, the tests are very clearly negative for HSV-2 for both of you and very clearly both positive for HSV-1. You both have the oral cold sore virus and very likely both of you have had it since you were very young.

There is no question that before the 'exposure' you and your partner are negative for HSV-2.

It does take 12-16 weeks after an exposure to be conclusive that a HSV-2 infection for yourself did not take place.

I guess that then begs the question if you are able to answer, what was the exposure?

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Thank you @WilsoInAus and thank you for replying! 

 

The exposure was March 9th 2018. We had unprotected sex for the first time and last time, after it happened I asked him to get an STD exam. All he received was a sheet with his doctor's instructions. He said he was positive for herpes (didn't explain which type) and told him to keep an eye out for an OB. When he called to get a better explanation, his doctor then said he did not have genital herpes and he could have unprotected sex. I had already gone to get tested before his doctor explained this. We finally obtained a copy of his blood work (which is what I posted) and to me it's very clearly negative, but his doctor's comments are confusing.

 

 

 

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7 hours ago, Abs said:

Thank you @WilsoInAus and thank you for replying! 

 

The exposure was March 9th 2018. We had unprotected sex for the first time and last time, after it happened I asked him to get an STD exam. All he received was a sheet with his doctor's instructions. He said he was positive for herpes (didn't explain which type) and told him to keep an eye out for an OB. When he called to get a better explanation, his doctor then said he did not have genital herpes and he could have unprotected sex. I had already gone to get tested before his doctor explained this. We finally obtained a copy of his blood work (which is what I posted) and to me it's very clearly negative, but his doctor's comments are confusing.

 

 

 

I can sure have a second guess at what the doctor was possibly thinking. In the end it doesn't particularly matter what was going on in your doctor's mind as you have all the facts on the table to reach your own conclusions.

I think what the doctor meant was that your partner has HSV-1 that was most probably oral but a blood test does not confirm location. 'Watching out' for an outbreak would help in terms of not transmitting the virus and ultimately concluding upon its location. I think in the clarifying discussion, the doctor confirmed that HSV-2 was not present (implying that the HSV-1 was most probably oral) and in conjunction with negative STD testing meant that unprotected sex would not result in him transmitting anything to a partner. I don't think the doctor intended to be confusing, but his threads are a little difficult to put together cohesively.

The facts are that you both have HSV-1 and neither have HSV-2. It is highly probable both infections are oral, and no where else. It is also highly probable that the immune system protects you from further infection to your genitals for example, just no sex when someone feels that a cold sore might be coming on.

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@WilsoInAus thank you so much for replying and helping ease my mind! I wasn’t sure if the test results were positive and that’s why he said they cross react and what he meant by remote infection meant.

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