Request someone's test results through the legal system?

[Ribbon35]

I am wondering is there some way to legally request from someone who has infected you with paperwork to show whether or not they are actually positive with the virus? The reason why I ask is I was sleeping with someone who told me that he was clean from the beginning. He seemed to emphasize it a little too much it felt. And when we would use condoms he would always want to take it off. After about the 5th time we had sex I was infected. The way I found out was quite traumatizing because the last time we had sex we used a condom however when we were finished we just turned around and went to sleep and the condom I never saw again after he put it on his penis.

Four days later I was feeling pain from what I thought was a tear in my vagina. So I went to Urgent Care to see what the issue was they saw the tear and said that they wanted to check me internally to make sure there was no infection preventing the tear to heal properly. When they went inside they found a condom. It had been there for 4 days. He never mentioned the condom had not stayed on. So the doctor sends me home and tells me to soak in Epsom salt.

Two days later and the pain is excruciating in my vagina. Hurts to pee hurts to walk my lymph nodes are swollen I'm feeling like the bottom half of my body has the flu followed by urinary retention UTI. So I started doing research online about how I could possibly feel like this and all the symptoms pointed towards hsv2. So I take myself back to Urgent Care and upon one look down in my vagina area where the tear once was now looks completely different and the doctor immediately diagnosis it as hsv2. She takes a swab and long story short 3 days later it comes up positive. He now tells me he had no idea that he had HSV and that he is sure that someone would have told him had they contracted it from him in the past. He even tried to downplay how often we had sex. He was like we only had sex like twice. That was a complete and utter lie I was appalled. He even went on to say he's been tested and that he has a clean bill of health. He never showed me this clean bill of health and even said he went and tested for HSV after finding out about me but he never showed me the results. I must admit I never really asked. This happened back in March so now moving forward 3 months later I've had abtotal of 4 breakouts and am really down and out about it and feeling misled and wondering if he really knew he had this all along. There's no way for me to tell but I have been considering requesting it from him but the timing just seems like a little too late?

I don't know what do you guys think is there any way to legally request such documents so that he has to tell me the truth and can't beat around the bush about it? 

[IcantThinkofaName]

if you have money, you can get a lawyer, and try to check these things out, depending on the State you live in and the laws regarding HSV.

Its called a tort (offense). Depending on the state, you my have 2  or up to 3 years to file.It varies.

Thats appalling that he left a condom in you. How rude... Not to mention infecting you with the herpes. that guy sounds like a total selfish chode

sorry for your luck.

[Ribbon35]

4 minutes ago, IcantThinkofaName said:

if you have money, you can get a lawyer, and try to check these things out, depending on the State you live in and the laws regarding HSV.

Its called a tort (offense). Depending on the state, you my have 2  or up to 3 years to file.It varies.

Thats appalling that he left a condom in you. How rude... Not to mention infecting you with the herpes. that guy sounds like a total selfish chode

sorry for your luck.

I live in California. Yea he acted as though he had no idea it was left inside. Just a complete disregard for my safety. I'm beyond devastated. Thank you for your input.

[IcantThinkofaName]

I don't know the law in CA. I live in another state. My state had 2 years I think to file in court. 

Its not cheap to get an attorney, But yeah, medical files can be subpoenaed

beyond devastated- yeah, I know that feeling. I wish you the best and hope that your luck changes. Stay strong.

[AloneForever]

Omg literally the same thing happened to me 3 years ago, almost exactly with my giver. I feel your pain. He remained in my life and still til this day says he didn't know he had it and would not have "intentionally"  given it to me and his ex of 3 yrs before me didn't have a problem, and yadda yadda. He talked me into having sex w/o a condom and we had sex a handful of times before I got infected as well and promised he was clean and the way he said it was "off" also. Mine also tried to lie when it happened and say he got tested and was negative. I found out Dr's don't test if no symptoms and it may not even show. (which is ridiculous!) He said he "didn't have the paperwork" and got the result over the phone. (which I also found out Dr's don't do). I know he lied to me. So upsetting. I live in PA, I wish the same thing that we can somehow push for some legal right of getting them tested and showing proof. He ruined my entire life, my health in my body and my mental health and my dating life has been destroyed. I met Mr. right, who accepted me legit right after I got herpes and lost him due to the emotional distraught i was in at the time by unintentionally hurting him. My giver should have to pay legal consequences for his actions and ruining my life entirely. I'm now 34 and should be married by now and my life is on hold as I can't move forward. I see him move onto other women while my life is stagnant and he doesn't care. It hurts and isn't fair he can keep going spreading this and not wearing condoms. They need to come up w something legal regarding this stuff! CA may have more rights than PA. Something's got to give. If you figure this out, please keep me posted on how to go about this. It sucks cause you feel violated and assaulted.

Edited May 18, 2018 by AloneForever

[Ribbon35]

9 hours ago, AloneForever said:

Omg literally the same thing happened to me 3 years ago, almost exactly with my giver. I feel your pain. He remained in my life and still til this day says he didn't know he had it and would not have "intentionally"  given it to me and his ex of 3 yrs before me didn't have a problem, and yadda yadda. He talked me into having sex w/o a condom and we had sex a handful of times before I got infected as well and promised he was clean and the way he said it was "off" also. Mine also tried to lie when it happened and say he got tested and was negative. I found out Dr's don't test if no symptoms and it may not even show. (which is ridiculous!) He said he "didn't have the paperwork" and got the result over the phone. (which I also found out Dr's don't do). I know he lied to me. So upsetting. I live in PA, I wish the same thing that we can somehow push for some legal right of getting them tested and showing proof. He ruined my entire life, my health in my body and my mental health and my dating life has been destroyed. I met Mr. right, who accepted me legit right after I got herpes and lost him due to the emotional distraught i was in at the time by unintentionally hurting him. My giver should have to pay legal consequences for his actions and ruining my life entirely. I'm now 34 and should be married by now and my life is on hold as I can't move forward. I see him move onto other women while my life is stagnant and he doesn't care. It hurts and isn't fair he can keep going spreading this and not wearing condoms. They need to come up w something legal regarding this stuff! CA may have more rights than PA. Something's got to give. If you figure this out, please keep me posted on how to go about this. It sucks cause you feel violated and assaulted.

I'm 35 and just it of a six year relationship a year ago. Was talking a year to be single and enjoy myself and then this happens. We no longer dial he basically voluntarily stopped talking and checking in on me after about a week of my diagnosis. Which sucked because although I didn't want to be good girlfriend he was the only person who knew about my condition and could talk to. Then he stopped reaching out. Probably wouldn't do much to get a lawyer anyway since I have no idea where he lives and only can see him on social media. Lesson learned the hard way.