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I am going to Europe and a guy from there who I have been friends (not super close but we kept in contact) with for a few years invited me to  his beach house  to stay for a few days. We had a romantic thing happen once (no sex, but of a sexual nature) but that was before I got HSV2. I am in Europe a few weeks already on a planned trip and would need to change my plane ticket  today to accommodate this extra time/visit with him.  It will cost me a few hundreds dollars (minimum)extra to see him/change tickets.

I want to see him. But Its bothering me that I haven't told him about the HSV2. I wanted to do it in person, but now I am thinking that's a big risk to take. I am also thinking if I tell him, and he says its Ok, but then changes his mind in the next month and doesn't pick me up at the airport , then I am stranded.  Also ,the rejection  I could face is something I am not looking forward too either.  I don't know what is the right thing to do. Tell today, and face possible rejection, or tell in person, once I am there?  We would be spending 4 days together. I am sure he would like to have sex. I haven't been with anyone since getting this disease, besides my former Fiancee/giver.  I've had HSV 1 yr and 5 months. Really don't know how to even start this conversation with him on the phone. or messaging ?. Not really the place to have it in my opinion.

I'm feeling sad and lost and hopeless. Why does this /having this, have to be so difficult?

Please help. Any advice?

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I might be in the minority here but you’re willing to spend hundreds of dollars e tra on this man and you’re not even sure if he’s going to accept you?tell him beforehand and then spend money

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On 5/20/2018 at 4:43 AM, Taintedgirl said:

I might be in the minority here but you’re willing to spend hundreds of dollars e tra on this man and you’re not even sure if he’s going to accept you?tell him beforehand and then spend money

You are the minority...as you are the only person who responded  :)

I already told him...I had an immediate deadline. No one replied within my time window so I sucked it up and told him on the phone.  We talked about transmission rates with the preventative methods too.

He still said "come"  :) 

He could still back out, but I think he will be cool about it...(as long as he picks me up at the airport and doesn't leave me stranded, I'm ok with that)

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4 hours ago, IcantThinkofaName said:

 

You are the minority...as you are the only person who responded  :)

I already told him...I had an immediate deadline. No one replied within my time window so I sucked it up and told him on the phone.  We talked about transmission rates with the preventative methods too.

He still said "come"  :) 

He could still back out, but I think he will be cool about it...(as long as he picks me up at the airport and doesn't leave me stranded, I'm ok with that)

Sigh of relief you’ll be fine just make sure he doesn’t have something you can catch and have great time 

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