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Hello! I’m not sure if I have any genital herpes, but I am positive for hsv1. The person I came in contact was hsv1 positive and from what I can tell from lab results, he is hsv2 negative. He mclaims he did not have any sores and never has had any. His doctor  did tell him to keep eye out for OB. Which has me extremely confused. He also was positive for chlamydia. 


I’ve tested 3 times; first time was 3 weeks after exposure, second time was a month after exposure with my OBGYN, 3 time was a swab almost a month and a half because I became extremely paranoid and constantly checking myself. I found a “pimple” which my doctor said was not herpes and just folliculitis. Swab came back negative. All have been negative thus far. 


Am I being paranoid and need to just let it go until I can retest in September, or should I retest sooner? 



Any women care to share their experience/symptoms with me? 

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I am not a woman, but in your circumstances that is not overly relevant.

You have not been exposed to HSV-2 from this partner, he simply does not have it. His results are in no way ambiguous, a clear negative.

The testing you have undertaken is also negative, which really only confirms the fact that there was no risk from the outset.

You're all good, no genital herpes that I could envisage!

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@WilsoInAus hello! :) thank for replying again! I must sound extremely paranoid and annoying by now haha


I suffer from anxiety and depression, so I am constantly googling and trying to make sense of this all. I keep driving myself crazy and wondering “what if he was recently exposed to hsv2 or anything else before me, then his results would be incorrect” 



I know I should probably stop, but I can’t help but wonder if anyone had any “mild symptoms “ that ended up being positive. 


I guess the “what if” is just driving me crazy. For example; did I wait long enough before being tested? Could results be positive in a year :dumbfounded:


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That's what we are here for. There is so much paranoia to be generated from over-reading the internet. Remember that 90%+ of what is on the net is rubbish.

The "what if" game never ends. I can only recommend a change in tack.

In life, the most rational explanation is almost invariably the correct one.

What would you say is the most rational explanation? Why would it not be the correct one?

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