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So I was diagnosed with HSV1 a few weeks ago, after a hellacious genital outbreak. told my partner he was tested as well we are both positive for 1 and negative all else....

so the Gyn basically said you guys are congruent you cant re-give him HSV1. That was the extent of our “counseling”

Where my confusion starts with the fact the Ive never had an oral outbreak only genital, and hes never had a genital outbreak only oral.

So does that mean it stays wherever you had an outbreak? Or does it mean that he could still have a genital outbreak, and likewise for me for oral? So confusing! 

Is it just you have HSV1 it could go where it pleases at random? Or are the two locations seperate? Like where he could giv me ohsv1 and i could give him ghsv1?

If anyone can clarify I would greatly appreciate it, my Gyn seemed like she just didnt care to talk about it and wanted me to come prepared with a list of questions...sort of made me angry because how the hell am I supposed ro know what to ask!

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Your body has about 30 nerve ganglions that serve 30 discrete areas of skin on your body, each area termed a dermatome. These areas generally banded horizontally, front and back, across the body. Ganglions have protection that prevent the HSV virus from moving out of the nerve ganglion for the infected dermatome. It is exceptionally rare for transmission internally from one ganglion to another. It possible, but also very rare for the virus to travel the body if a significant immune deficiency emerges, this does not mean another ganglion is infected.

This means you will only experience outbreaks in the infected dermatome region.

The immune system is incredibly strong once the infection is established. To then obtain the same type in a different dermatome is exceptionally rare. For a concordant couple like you two now are, it simply isn't worth worrying about. Just follow the rule of no contact with an active outbreak or suspected pending outbreak and the chances or simply too small to worry about, certainly nothing to get in the way of an active sex life.


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Hi, I’ve done my fair share of reaserach on the subject and also have plenty of experience with these dreaded sores since i got having 1 & 2, but only get cold sores on my face, but no sores down there.  I’ve never had one down there thank God.  Anyway, I strongly believe you can reinfect yourself or pass the virus to each other when one of you have a active sore.  I thought it was very rare as well since that’s what I read so I didn’t take many precautions in the beginning when I was first diagnosed 3 yrs ago.  Now I get them back to back on my cheek, chin, nose, all the time.  It’s very annoying.  So use q tips to treat your sores, to not spread them even more on ur self or ur bf.  

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Well my partner has HSV1 oral and via oral sex he gave me GHSV1. Despite being positive for oral coldsores. So being infected in other areas with the same strain is true. I'm one of them. Only antidepressants got me accepting

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