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I found out I have hsv1 & 2 in 2016. I knew I had 1 but had no clue I had 2. I have meet someone and I told him I had hsv2. I didn’t even say anything about hsv1 because I had that for a while and I thought you only pass it when you have a break out. But know he will not even kiss me. I am finding that it is stressing me. I knew with hsv2 you find creative ways to work around that. I am finding if very hard that I can’t even kiss anyone again. 

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WannaCry

Oh good god.

Kissing with HSV1 is not a big deal. The majority of the population has HSV-1 orally. Just don't kiss people when you have active sores or prodomal symptoms.

If this man is going to act this shitty to you then you need to find someone else to date. I have had HSV-1 for longer than I have not and barring one nutty guy like this (who literally told me he would rather have CANCER than HSV) I have not had a man treat me like this. And yes I do disclose HSV1 status when sex becomes a possibility.

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Lukeherpwalker
On 6/9/2018 at 12:21 PM, WannaCry said:

Oh good god.

Kissing with HSV1 is not a big deal. The majority of the population has HSV-1 orally. Just don't kiss people when you have active sores or prodomal symptoms.

If this man is going to act this shitty to you then you need to find someone else to date. I have had HSV-1 for longer than I have not and barring one nutty guy like this (who literally told me he would rather have CANCER than HSV) I have not had a man treat me like this. And yes I do disclose HSV1 status when sex becomes a possibility.

But not kissing ? Can't u pass the virus either way 

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WannaCry

Yes the virus can be passed orally. However it requires french style kissing to be passed when there is no active sores. Meaning friction and rubbing of the lips on each other.  

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Quest

@WannaCry  or anyone else. can you personally feel the prodrome? I just don't see how a virus can explode with copies and someone not feel it if they are paying attention and not in denial. I can't imagine shedding more than I pick up subtly!?!?

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Scooby2112

I think many studies have found people shed more days then they thought they were.  However it always held true that the amount of shedding correlated to the number of outbreaks.  .

If I have constant symptoms but no outbreaks I am not sure where that leaves me. 

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IcantThinkofaName
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49 minutes ago, Scooby2112 said:

I think many studies have found people shed more days then they thought they were.  However it always held true that the amount of shedding correlated to the number of outbreaks.  .

If I have constant symptoms but no outbreaks I am not sure where that leaves me. 

 

3 hours ago, Quest said:

or anyone else. can you personally feel the prodrome? I just don't see how a virus can explode with copies and someone not feel it if they are paying attention and not in denial. I can't imagine shedding more than I pick up subtly!?!?

so nobody really knows the medical answer for this...not even doctors :(

there is no such thing as safe sex or safe "real" kissing (more than a peck on the cheek) then when dealing with this virus, there is always a chance of spreading it

Edited by IcantThinkofaName

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Quest

My doc, not gynecologist said there are two schools of thought. But I don't believe every itch is shedding either, itching more than once I pay attention to. Tingling I pay attention to. Same goes for raw!

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WannaCry

You really should not be abusing yourself to the level you are about HSV @IcantThinkofaName . You are able to kiss people. Socially oral herpes is really not viewed the way that genital is, and to transfer from ones mouth to genitalia IF they were to contract from you is vanishingly rare. I have had oral herpes since i was 9. I have kissed many, many people and I have not given anyone HSV. I simply abstain from kissing if I feel prodomal symptoms (burning, itching, throbbing, swelling, discoloration that is limited to a small area) and especially abstain if I have an active sore. And yes i have dated someone who was way too neurotic about HSV and they did not get it from me (and I assure you if they had I  would of known IMMEDIATELY from them flipping out all over the place).

Sex is a different situation due to mucousal membranes being very easy for the virus to penetrate.

@Quest typically I'm pretty aware of prodome. Mine is obvious with itching, burning feelings on my mouth, and sometimes rash like discoloration. I have had a very few times where i just felt run down and then next day BAM an OB, but thats been the minority.
 

@Scooby2112 if you are experiencing constant symptoms it is not prodomal - I'm assuming you still have not had an OB either?  Speaking from personal experience prodome symptoms are nothing like nerve pain. 

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Scooby2112

@WannaCry it is true that I have not had a blatant outbreak.  

I have irritations or redness areas (and indentations) on my glans that while are mostly always present to some degree get better and worse over time.  I have found a couple bumps (very small) but only noticeable sometimes.  I a not sure if these are anything or not.  Dermatologist didn't think so (he said they were solid).  

The leg pains may or may not be nerve, they just burn on the surface and when I touch them they are not painful to the touch or pressure.  

 The symptoms get worse and maybe there are some prodrome mixed in. I am not trying to say it is prodrome. I am saying it's impossible to know what prodrome is when there are constant signs.  

 

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IcantThinkofaName
11 hours ago, Scooby2112 said:

The symptoms get worse and maybe there are some prodrome mixed in. I am not trying to say it is prodrome. I am saying it's impossible to know what prodrome is when there are constant signs.

Exactly my problem!

How the hell am I supposed to know when there is almost constant signs?

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