Jump to content

Help


Just Great

Recommended Posts

Please help me figure this out.

Sex with “Person A” from 2016 - July 2017.

Sex with “Person B” from September - December 2017.

Sex with “Person A” from Jan 2018 and last time was on March 23, 2018.

Had first HORRIFIC outbreak EVER May 12, 2018 and I’m barely getting better.

Who gave it to me? Can someone help me solve this puzzle? I’m going crazy. 

Edited by Just Great
  • Like 1
  • Confused 1
Link to comment
Share on other sites

For sure we can help, but first a few things.

Where was the outbreak on your body? Were you then diagnosed with swab or blood test and what were the results? Do you know type? Was there zero contact (meaning any sex or oral sex) between March 23 and May 12?

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Thank you for your quick reply. My obg said it was vaginitis and did a swab test (painful!). After a few days of having severe pain and getting worse she called me and said it was H! That is all she said and all that really matters. I’m on Valtrex, Zovirax cream, ibuprofen, and kenotazol for pain. This is the worst pain I have ever been in! Never even had a YI before. 

Sex and oral on March 23 was the last time. No sex since.

Edited by Just Great
Link to comment
Share on other sites

I'd certainly get a printout of the test result.

Although there are a number of possibilities, the following represents the most likely explanation along with a few assumptions that you can confirm or otherwise.

Assuming you had no sex from March 23 to May 12, a period just shy of six weeks, the outbreak is most probably recurrent. I suspect it is being exacerbated by a bacterial or yeast infection. I suspect you have oral cold sores and this contributed to mild genital infection with HSV-2 that you may have missed at the time of infection. I suspect you may be from a high incidence demographic for HSV-2 (which includes African American and South American) which seems to also correlate with undetected infections.

In terms of source, given the high chance this is a recurrent outbreak, it cannot be narrowed down. It could actually be any sexual partner you've had. There is a weighting toward the last sexual partner "A" but the 6 week gap doesn't make him a prime suspect so to speak.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Thank you. I will ask my obg for a printout. 

I had NEVER had a YI.  I was on antibiotics for my FIRST EVER ear infection on May 7 and soon thereafter got what i thought was a YI which turned to be H.  How can it be recurrent if this is the first time I’ve ever had anything like this? :,( 

Btw I’m not African Am nor SA. 

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Confusing indeed.

Do you have oral cold sores?

Asymptomatic infections are rare but do happen. The factors that contribute to one are mentioned above, only oral cold sores are left!

You sound super healthy, with a strong immune system, possibly this has something to do with it. Your immune system was definitely challenged from May 7.

I do recommend getting a blood test in 12 weeks time (or at least 12 weeks after last sex).

Link to comment
Share on other sites

I never have cold sores on my lips or outside my mouth.  The times I have gotten one it’s just one and inside my mouth like on my cheek or tongue if I accidentally bite myself or one on my gums if I hit myself with the toothbrush while brushing my teeth. 

Does this mean that both Persons A & B have it too? 

Link to comment
Share on other sites

No conclusions can be made regarding the status of A and B. Herpes is not bio hazardous in the sense that contact does not guarantee infection, quite the opposite. One or both probably have some form of herpes

I think you might drive yourself mad thinking through possibilities and explanations so please be careful. I think knowing the type of herpes may be useful.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

I'd suggest not. I feel you'd tell only a current partner and future partners. Assembling a list and making calls doesn't lead to anything good I assure you. They will have had sexual partners since, some of course won't have it etc. Ick, look forward only!

Link to comment
Share on other sites

So Person A whom was my last one back in March is the one I should tell. Do I say, he apparently must already have it since I have it?I can just picture it: the who gave it to who fight.  I have avoided him because I’m so confused and don’t know what to do. 

Link to comment
Share on other sites

No, only tell people you will be having sex with in future.

it really is best to know your type when disclosing.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Person A is supposedly the person I would be having sex with when I get the courage to answer his calls and IF the talk goes well.  

(You’re a blessing, btw)

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Yes all fair enough. In that case please get to know your HSV type and hence transmission risks. When you do and have the talk with him only go as far as suggesting you had your first outbreak well after sex with him. You’re not sure where it came from but it is worthwhile him testing as having the same type would be awesome for you. Otherwise discuss what prevention he might be comfortable with. 

Link to comment
Share on other sites

How do you know its HSV-1? This means one partner at least has such an infection, almost certainly oral and probably partner A.

There are some factors that come into play when you know you have HSV-1.

First you have an expectation of a low outbreak frequency. About half of people with genital HSV-1 do not experience an outbreak again after say 6 months.

Next, as 70% of men have this type, youre very compatible. The chances of further infection to a HSV-1 couple are phenomenally low... fun days!

Link to comment
Share on other sites

51 minutes ago, Just Great said:

My obg confirmed its HSV1

Gotcha, but do you know exactly how they reached that conclusion. I ask as the method of diagnosis is instrumental to the explanation as to how the infection came about. You only had a swab test, correct? Did you have blood taken as well?

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.

  • Donate

    If Honeycomb has helped you, please help us by making a donation so we can provide you with even better features and services.

  • The Hive is Thriving!

    • Total Topics
      71.9k
    • Total Posts
      485.2k
  • Posts

    • FirstTimeUser
      @WilsoInAuswould appreciate your thoughts as have seen you comment quite a bit before!
    • Marlena
      Good morning. My name is Marlena and I come from Poland. Sorry, my English is average. For two years I have been in a relationship with a man, for a year and a half I have been struggling with intimate problems. On average, my intimate condition is getting worse every month. Then I feel itching, redness, swelling around the entrance to the vagina, small blisters (not always). Most often it is only red and swollen, itches and then disappears. This state lasts 3-4 days. I come from a small town, doctors don't know what it is. They say it's 'skin irritation'. They prescribe moisturizing creams with lactic acid, probiotics. It doesn't help. I did a blood test for HSV on my own, which is very expensive in Poland, but it does not separate HSV1 from HSV2. The doctor, when he shows these results, says that it's not herpes, but irritation. I would like to add that in the past I suffered from herpes on the lips, then it was a 'scab'. There has never been a scab in an intimate area. Sometimes there are blisters that last 1-2 days, but not always. So what do high blood test results mean? I would like to add that in Poland people do not talk about the HSV virus. It's just that sometimes someone has it on their lips and that's it. Results translation: IgM HSV 1/2: questionable IgG HSV 1/2: result above the measuring range https://files.fm/f/4cpu7uee4  
    • FirstTimeUser
      This is my first time posting here. Im generally pretty anxious when it comes to anything to do with health conditions etc. For context I have had jock itch and fungal infections previously on my buttcrack. I have had 0 new sexual partners and I am not concerned about my girlfriend cheating at all. 4 days ago my balls began itching and red pretty much all over, as you can see some general flakeyness and what looks to be a lesion I noticed on Monday when I checked them out. My partner and I do get cold sores from time to time so the anxious part of me is concerned this could be herpes, but at the same time could be some sort of fungal infection. My doctor cant see me until tomorrow so I just have to worry until then. There is no pain and nothing on the penis or anywhere else, just general itchiness. Any ideas if this is herpes or not?  
    • Jeremy Spokein
      Yes, but every married person who I found out about that has this waited 6-8 months into the relationship to disclose it. But maybe you're right. If I had told her 6-7 months in, she'd still have Googled it and flipped out, and maybe it would have been harder then. I don't know. I don't see myself going through this level of pain and rejection so easily next time. I really don't. I'm taking the meds. I use protection. It's been almost a decade since I've had it so I'm not worried about shedding or passing it on so easily. British studies confirm that the first 2 years are the most contagious and we're passed that. I'm just over this. I've never been in so much emotional pain in my life.
    • Possiblehypercon11
      @WilsoInAus would really appreciate your input please. Kinda freaking out lol. 
×
×
  • Create New...

Important Information

We have placed cookies on your device to help make this website better. You can adjust your cookie settings, otherwise we'll assume you're okay to continue.