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Mistake made: Gen HSV1 no condom used, what next?

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G77
1 hour ago, Scooby2112 said:

Glad she was there.   

How are your outbreaks now?  Obviously not that bad.  But would you say they are annoying or a nuisance? Or still fairly impactful?

I'm only just getting over my first outbreak. It's been 4 weeks since infection and the sores have gone but it's itchy and burning still. Coconut oil seems to ease this though. I think the next year will be the test as to whether I'm going to suffer alot of outbreaks but I'm being super healthy and taking supplements etc. I'm scared to death to be honest! 

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Scooby2112

I hear you.  I think worrying can only make it worse.  Try to stay positive.  

I think my anxiety might have made everything worse for me.  

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G77

Yeah I've taken up meditation lol. This could be the making of me! Healthy body, healthy mind! :-) 

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Wtfisthisplease

If I were you I probably would not disclose genital hsv1 if anything maybe say you've had a coldsore before if you can get that across in his language. You should probably get the guy tested before you catch HIV HSV2 or HEPC etc from going condomless. You're assuming he is STD free.

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AnonF

I did get fully tested for STD's after the condomless encounter.  I have been with him a few times since this original post most recently about 3 wks ago. All encounters have been protected. I still have not told him, nor he has not caught anything from me. I haven't had any outbreaks either. 

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AnonF

Fast forward months here: Had a discussion w this man about STI's in general. I still had never disclosed to him! Then he described to me how sometimes he gets a rash after a rougher sex experience but he assured me it was not an STI!  He said this has happened to him for years now and then. He described an outbreak..... he has no clue!! I cannot believe I carried around this anxiety for months about disclosing to him and then he told me this. Crazy

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AnonF
5 hours ago, RNY18 said:

Did he ever get tested ?

Not for herpes. For everything else though. He is not making the connection that the rash he gets IS likely an sti. He has had like zero sex education. 

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